She dumped me more than two weeks ago. Called me a week after I stopped all contact. She has been calling me since then periodically. We had good conversations but I asked to meet up twice, both times she denied me saying she was busy. I stopped asking but she won't stop calling. Is she keeping me on the back burner? Does she want a friend? I don't know what the hell is going on. I don't call though. I got denied twice and I was always told that if a girl likes you she will make time to see you. Is she confused? Does she like someone else or is she trying to make me work for her? Need some help.....I have no idea what is going on....I won't call anymore but I know she will call me, she has called when she was drunk too. What do I do if I like the girl. I am afraid if I ask to get back together and push it, she will run (if she is confused and wants her space). Will I ever know?
2007-01-22 15:14:12 · 7 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ZERO communication. the only way you'll get over her. if she calls- screen it. emails- delete em (ar at least don't respond). same with texts.
until YOU feel ok with talking to her, then ZERO COMM
but be a man and tell her what you're going to do before you do it.
and then ZERO COMM. its hard but it works
iff its meant to be then it will be meant to be in a month or two (yes a whole month or two)
2007-01-22 15:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by AgentZero 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's really confused and doesn't want to let you go in case her other interests don't work out. I would say you are on the back burner right now, which makes it look like you are reacting to her and she's in control of this relationship. You need to flip the script on her and take control yourself. Is this the only girl on the face of the earth that you are attracted to??? Is this the only girl that turns you on?? Get back out there and find a girl just as good or better that is more than willing not to play games with you. My immediate suggestion would be that the next time your ex calls tell her you're on your way out on a date. The next time you call her back be at the club so she can hear the music and crowd in the background. It's time to let her know that you are not going to be at home waiting for her calls. Your ex sounds like the perfect motivation to find another chick. She probably thinks she owns you so use that as motivation and hook up with someone. Every now and then we have to get a little wreckless to make us feel alive, just make sure you use protection....... Have some fun and good luck!!!!
2007-01-22 23:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is yanking your chain man, and it will never work again. She takes satisfaction in knowing you are still wanting her back. I guarantee you. Don't fall for it. Tell her you are busy and you cant talk. Do this a few times and she will be DYING to talk to you. For women, it is all about the satisfaction that they can have you back any time. But they will never want you back. Be a man and move on.
Next time she calls you tell her you are busy and if she does not call back, dont pick my answer. But I guarantee she will. Turn the tables and let her chase you, but dont ever take her back. No matter what. When a girl dumps you, it is over.
2007-01-22 23:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by michael p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may just want to have u as a friend or still have fillings for u but doesn't want to act on them at this time, I think you should just play it cool and see were it go's don't push her, if u want to see her invite her to a group function so she doesn't think its a date. You should also call her some time(to keep the lines of communication open), but don't sweat her cuz then she'll think your there waiting on her and she might just play the field knowing that when shes ready you'll still be there.
So go out, have fun and relax if your meant to be with her you both will find your way back to each other.
2007-01-22 23:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by miami_gurl88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's just playing ya! she isn't sure anyone wants her and so she keeps calling to feel good about herself. next time she calls, tell her you're busy and say good bye. it's time for you to move on and find someone who wants to be with you. that one is all about ego, hers!! good luck.
2007-01-22 23:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by car dude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could ask her,or ease into it. don't just blow her off, apparently she still has something for you.It's okay to still be cool with your ex. (you don't have to fall in love with her or anything) just be cool and you can still move on @the same or get together.
who knows what could happen.
2007-01-22 23:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by Diva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about this chick, she seems crazy.....doesn't seem like she likes you but just wants to keep you in her life for her own selfish reasons
2007-01-22 23:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋