My boyfriend is begging me 2 give him a b*** j**, but that just seems so nasty! i like him but that's just gross. but i really dont want him 2 stop liking me and i'm afriad if i dont do this he'll get mad and wont want me anymore. i'd hate 2 loose him. and i dont wanna get a disease in my mouth! ewwww he says he cant b infected cuz he's never had any sexual contact whatsoever w/ anyone and none of his family members have an STD, but u can never b sure. how do i just say no 2 a BJ without him hating me? please help!
2007-01-22 15:09:35 · 40 answers · asked by alli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is the oldest trick in the book, *you would if you love me*, the biggest BS story there is !!!!! IF he loved you there would be respect and NO presasure !!!! something, anything that makes YOU uncomfortable is a sure sign that it is NOT right for YOU....... so tell this guy to take a hike and find some one who will respect and love YOU for YOU, NOT for what you can do for HIM !!!!!!!!!!!! God bless
2007-01-22 15:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pleez! First of all nobody in his family has ever had an STD, what kind of sh** is that? You don't care about his family having an STD, unless you are going to be doing all of them. Having oral sex can be wonderful, when like anything else, you actually want to do it. Don't let anyone talk you into anything you don't want to do or it won't taste...I mean seem right (sorry). If you loose him because of this, it just wasn't meant to be. You want a person who is going to respect your fears. IN this day & age, don't be afraid to ask for a certified doctor's form with test results. Also, don't believe that he has never had sex. My last piece of advice: It is better to give than receive.
2007-01-22 15:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not do anything you don't want to. If he is begging/forcing you to do that then he does not respect you and all he cares about his needs. He should like or love you for who you are and not for what you can do for him.
Talk to him and let him know that you are not comfortable doing that. Especially when you think its gross. If his not OK with it, and gets mad about it then turn and run away from him as fast as you can. Do not do something for a short time pleasure if its going to destroy or put your life in danger for the rest of your life.
Please think and do the right thing.
2007-01-22 15:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Zuzu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. If your not comfortable doing something no one should hate you for not doing it. When I was younger I had guys that ask for BJ and I have said No some of them didn't speak to me after and some we stayed together. But the point of this is that if you say no and he doesn't like you any more is it going to be that big of a deal. If he's not good enough to respect the decision you make about your body then he's not good enough to be with.You need to respect yourself and have goals set for yourself. there are so many guy that will care for you like a Queen so don't let this one guy determine what is right for you. you don't need a guy to determine who you are.
be true to yourself.
2007-01-22 15:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he can't respect you, then you shouldn't be wasting your time. If he cared about you, he wouldn't be thinking about "get off". You should NEVER compremise yourself for someone else, or let someone else tell you what you should do or be. It's your life, & you'll be stuck with what happens the next day. Besides, once he breaks you down & gets what he wants. He'll be wanting more!
He obviously doesn't care too much, if he's thinking about himself, & not how you're feeling.
Tell him that's it & if he doesn't smarten up, then you'll be walking out. You can also tell him that you don't "like" him enough to stoop that low!
Besides, what does his family have to do with STDs? It's not like he slept with them?
2007-01-22 15:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no. If he wont accept you for who you are he sucks, and is not worth your time anyways. There will be others in your future. You are very right in being worried about STD's and such.
2007-01-22 15:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, I will walk you through this step by step. 1. Start by opening your mout. 2. Press your teeth together and exert a vocal noise. 3. Exert another noise, this time like you just heard your friend was gay. That is how you say no.
2007-01-22 15:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to respect you that you do not want to do that. If he cant it is going to lead to bigger problems down the road. You need to demand respect if you don't no one else will for you. It is the worse thing to do something like that when you don't want to, especially to keep some guy that cant respect you.
2007-01-22 15:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by dtucker87@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey if your relationship is hanging on this issue he's not worth having if he can't respect your wishes and take no for an answer he doesn't deserve you and by the way std's are not hereditary
2007-01-22 15:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by youhoo it's me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems safe to do it since he's clean.
if you don't want to do it, don't let him talk you into it. I'd rather you lost a boyfriend than did something you're uncomfortable with.
if he wont drop it, he doesn't respect you and if you do it just for him you'll lose respect for yourself.
2007-01-22 15:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋