I'm a college student in my twenties yet i feel like a "dramatic" teenager who wants to be left alone - i feel like my parents are on my case. This could do something with that fact that i am their "first baby girl". My dad will question where i go and why and if i "have to". My mom will guilt trip me into not going out and staying with her - she'll read my school schedule and wants and will be involved in knowing when i'll have "certain exams". HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS??? and why are they like this?
PS: don't tell me to move out - i can't afford it. Just tell me psychological affects, experiences, your opinions - THANKS!
2007-01-22 15:09:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sound to me you have very love parents, all this means is that they with you to be something in life, it's just that they love you enough to care they don't want you to end up like they did when they were coming up.
2007-01-22 15:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by darrell c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you can't afford to move out, just bide your time and finish your studies. Eventually, things will improve. As for your parents, your schooling is a direct reminder that you are leaving them. You're a clock ticking away at what time they have left with you. Of course they're gonna wanna spend time with you. They try to guilt you when you're leaving hoping that you'll stay. Try to talk with your parents sometime. Let them know that you will always be there for them, but they are driving you nuts. Good luck!
2007-01-22 23:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Thegustaffa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents really care about what you are doing with your life. Even though you may think their being a pain they are just trying deal with the idea that their child is growing up. I would recommend that you sit down with them and TALK to them about whats going on in your life and how you feel about having your own space. But I definitely would not try to take on life with out parent support and guidance. There are many times I wish someone would have told me I was heading down the wrong path or given me advice on how to deal with stresses in life. Hope this helps.
2007-01-22 23:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's part of the same old things.....
you still live at home and unless you're on a scholarship they're putting out big money
you're a girl and they're being protective
at your age you should have some privacy and privileges....you should write them a respectful letter about how you feel and what you feel you should be allowed to do....and then sit down and talk to them....good luck.
2007-01-22 23:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living my life. My mother, specifically, does this kind of stuff to me. But her expertise is dropping little comments about me and my boyfriend, if we're getting too serious, if I'm spending too much time with him, just whatever. I hate going home nowadays because it gets to be too much for me to handle.
Why can't parents just be straightforward and say: I love you very much, you are my life's work, and I am very sad about the thought of you leaving? Because direct communication is just not something they are down with, because then they would be relinquishing their role as our dictator.
A better question: Why do we let it bother us when it is so unpleasant and often, when they are so hurtful? Because we want to please them.
I think deep down, I am afraid that if I hurt my mom, she won't love me anymore. Even if I'm hurting her by growing up and getting married, something that should be HAPPY and joyful! I'm afraid that she will never forgive me for leaving her. Isn't that bizarre? Maybe that is the way that it is supposed to be though. We are supposed to feel guilty and terrible about growing up and being happy, and then maybe they get over it, maybe not? I don't know. But if you promise not to let it keep you from living your life, so will I!
2007-01-22 23:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just scared and insecure. Let them know that you need a bit more space. I feel for you, my mom is a complete control freak, but it doesn't sound like that in your situation. Have a little mercy on your parents, spend time with them once in awhile, but tell them nicely that you do need some space and freedom, as you are an independent adult now.
2007-01-22 23:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by madmusician007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a "toughy"!! Because they need to understand that their "baby girl"is growing up,and needs some space/independence.BUT this needs to be handled carefully.Because they love you enough to want to be apart of your life,AND you are respectfully in their home.Could you sit down and do a heart-to -heart talk with both/or one of them?So you can maybe workout time with/for them.But also time for you?Good Luck!
2007-01-22 23:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by stressed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, your parents just want the best for u in life. do what they say and continue to make them proud,be a good person and they wont have any reason to be all up on u....
2007-01-22 23:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by Kev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋