Is this totally unheard of, or is it just me. Do parents usually get jealous by their own child's accomplishments. Its a sad fact, but my own mother hates to see me succeed at anything. Because of this, I feel like maybe having a close relationship with her will never actually happen. Is this a common trend.
2007-01-22 15:00:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No this is not common...I am a mother and I am happy when my kids do good,it makes me feel that i have done a good job..I had my mother jealous of me a lot of times,but I loved her to death,but I lost her last year,but she was jealous of me sometimes...I always tried to buy her things and share with her my good fortune...I only wish I could have done more,when I saw her this way,I would not say anything that I was doing..i don,t think she intended to be this way,its just like she had some hard times and sometimed it makes them feel like that..Im sure your Mom loves you very much and continue to be close to her..Try getting her little things and just overlook her faults because we all have different types of mothers but they all love us,even if they don,t always show it...My Mom was difficult but I would give anything to hear her voice again...Just be patient..
2007-01-22 18:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think she is jealous of your accomplishments? If in fact she is, it may be because she feels like a failure in her own life and seeing you accomplish these things only makes it more real to her. Try being discret and start pointing out her accomplishments or tell her that you couldn't have done it without her help and support. She may just feel like she has been put on the back burner while you spread your wings and fly. Just remember she's your mom and she has feelings also. Congrats on your accomplishments and keep up the good work!
2007-01-22 15:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother has always been very jealous of me. It has been hard to have a relationship with her and I end up biting my tough most of the time. I am a mother myself and am so proud by my children and would never be jealous f them. There is a part of me that feels very close to mom and I love her very much, but the other part is very tired of the competition. Try to be patient with her as she must have been neglected in some way as a child and this is all that she knows. My mother has been recently diagnosed with terminal cancer and I will lose her soon. So I encourage you to focus on the good things and try not to focus too much on the bad. Have a really good friend that you can be close to that can lift you up if your mother can't. Good luck!
2007-01-22 15:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is sad but unfortunatley sometimes true. Maybe your mom didnt get a chance to accomplish what you already have. She should be happy for you not jealous. Talk to her and let her know how you feel. Hopefully she'll open up about the problem.
2007-01-22 15:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by Miranda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say about your mother is true, then you will only have a close relationship with her AFTER she gets counseling or therapy. She has obvious self-esteem issues, which cause her to compete with her own daughter. Many insecure and immature parents try to keep their children down, as any success will make them feel inferior. Don't let anyone's insecurities keep you down.
2007-01-22 15:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by monteee_python 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not common as far as I know. I am a parent, & I am always proud of my childs accomplishments.
You may be right about your mom. If your relationship with her is toxic to your well being then you may have to keep her at a safe distance, as sad as that sounds.
Try not to get angry at her for her behaviour. Just congratulate yourself on succeeding in spite of her. :)
2007-01-22 15:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if it is common but I'm 39 & according to my mother I can't get anything right.
I think it's just their way of making themselves believe we still & always will need them because we can't do without them.
I don't think they mean to be so critical.
2007-01-22 15:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people still have good mothers! Like me!
2007-01-22 15:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋