im sick of being the one who does everything first. and im sick of waiting to see if he will. but when he does make a move hes very good. but its weeks before he does it again. theres no lovey dovey in between. its like hes just want to have sex and thats it. i need more romance. ive talked to him before about this and im sick of not being romantic. what is really going on. we've been dating for 2 yrs and its seems like hes not emotinally available.
2007-01-22 14:58:06 · 25 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's obvious that this guy isn't giving you what you need. You need to think about what's important to you and if you aren't satisfied with this guy you need to move on and find a guy who is a better match for you. And I would have a hard time too being with a guy who isn't emotionally available. I am a blabber mouth and I am very open with my feelings. I have to have a guy who is in touch with his emotions or I go crazy. Think about what it is that you want in a relationship and then compare it to what you have with this guy and see if your needs are being met.
2007-01-22 15:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol.. excuse me... I was and still in the same situation.. at this point of life.. you know what you want.. by just saying so... and well break it off.. oviously there's something about the guy that keeps you going... I am with my guy and he's not romantic and i am.. i do hate it at times.. but thats how he is.. and believe me.. it's annoying.. but what r you gonna do? you want out then do so.. you deserve to be happy.. I decide to stay with mine because.. there's more to everything besides sex.. which is how i like to be romantic.. lol.. he's a great guy all in all.. so i dont let my needs bother me.. because i know he loves me... We both dont have much to give each other anything so i dont expect anything more or less from him. He gives what he can give and i accept it as it is. I know i can do better but the more i think about dating and having to start all over again with someone who's probably more of a bastard just makes me glad I'm with my man... Besides being romantic... Is he a good guy? Does he feed you the right intellegence.. and is he there for you when you need him? when you are sad does he try and be there for you... when you have a choice does he accept whatever you decide? think about it. He cant be perfect...just like you... and me.. and everyone.. theres gonna be a flaw.. no matter who it is..good luck... :-)
2007-01-22 15:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sunkn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well a lot of guys are just not smart, you can't beat around the bush with them cause you'll be beating that bush all day before they get it. you have to tell him what you want and talk slow. if you need more romance, you have to tell him that, while the t.v. is off and maybe even give him some examples of what is romantic to you. do not think they all can do this by themselves. it doesn't come that easy for some.
2007-01-22 15:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by Debt Free! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a romantic and he's not you have two choices: either to learn to live without it or move on to another guy. If you are and he's not, I'd advise you to break it off and find someone more compatible to you in that way. It may not seem terribly important now, but if it goes long-term, it will eventually get tiring to you.
2007-01-22 15:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Doogie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is not romantic but he just want to go to bed with you. If he has a true love with you, he will know what to do: give you flowers, invite you to eat out, go to the cinema ... If he only want to have sex, be careful because perhaps he will leave you someday because all he want is sex, not love .
2007-01-22 15:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by Thuy Nguyen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, explain to me why you are still dating him?
If you are sick of no romance and he's not romantic, you either need to accept him for who he is (and stop wishing he were someone else) or find someone else.
2007-01-22 15:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by someone's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey now, you won't change him so either get used to it, or find a new boyfriend. It's true that guys are trainable but you may have to dump him, & let him learn his lesson in time for his next girlfriend.
2007-01-22 15:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been with him for two years and you are just asking this question? He's not the romatic type, he is NOT going to change so either take him as he is or move on.
2007-01-22 15:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hum...emotionally unavailable,,,,that's a good phrase but has no truthfulness to it at all...I suggest you two read a book called the 5 Languages of Love....Everybody perceives love differently....and we all go about showing it to our special someone the wrong way...We are selfish creatures....We show love to our special someone the way we want them to show us they love us....Hence....you might do romantic things for him but that's because that's how you would feel loved if somebody did that for you...He needs to understand that....You have to learn his love language also...When you do those romantic things for him, he probably does not see that as a sign of love...hence you don't get a emotional reaction...2 years make sure you both read the book so he can learn your love language also....
2007-01-22 15:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by getembigger_85027 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are people out there who are "users" - they use other people. He may be one of them. He seems to only want you for one thing. Time to find something better.
2007-01-22 15:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋