Father wont talk to me and kids get yelled at if they tell me stuff. How do I confront him, without having my kids get scolded by him afterwards. My boys are 9 and 7 yrs old. Examples of abuse is the kids cant talk or mention me in there home. The kids don't bathe, I see them and there ears are dirty, skin has dried up dirt, hair smells. They are left home alone sometimes, they are forced to go to school when sick. Dad and step mom talk negative about me in front of them. They cant have anything I give them. It gets thrown away. My son was sick with a bad headache and step mom left him home alone and told him to go to school. He has a history of seizures too. They have to feed themselves breakfast and make their school lunch. Step mom sometimes wears long night shirts with nothing at all underneath, son has told me he feels uncomfortable about it. How can I get help for my kids without their dad getting mad? Kids are getting scared to tell me stuff do to fear of there dad.
2007-01-22 14:54:28 · 14 answers · asked by latinababy72 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I lost my kids due to not having a stable home and income. Their Dad had better job, a home and they felt the kids would be better off with him, I beg the courts and still it seemed money was the issue. Things were fine between the Ex and kids, until he got remarried and now the kids are not #1 anymore. My husband and I have tried to help make it work for both families,but they wont meet half way. They fight us over everything.
2007-01-23 15:12:18 · update #1
It would seem to me you either have to talk to someone like children's services or the attorney involved in the fact that the father has custody of the children.
Chances are the father doesn't think much of you anyway, so if you get authorities involved and based only on what you have observed (rather than what the kids have told you) a social worker would come in and talk with the children.
If they're found to be being abused or neglected the authorities may remove them from their father's home immediately.
I would think even if you just say the child has a history of seizures and has been left alone it may be enough to get them to look into it.
I know how frightening it must be because you're thinking if the father finds out the kids have told you things he'll take it out on them. I think you may just have to talk confidentially with some authority and trust them not to put your children at risk.
I know that may not be enough of a guarantee for you, and I know there are times there are no guarantees, but I think it may be the only option.
2007-01-22 16:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her harsh language is not right, but she has been through a lot, just as you and your sibling(s) have. Maybe she can not afford that school anymore, and that's why you need to go to public school. There is nothing wrong with public school, btw- I went all my life and I graduated with honors and have a great job. It sounds to me like your family has/had a comfortable lifestyle. Changing that- especially at 16, but it's not the end of the world. You just have to understand that, even though it's not right to give her excuses, she may just not know how to handle things either. Do what you are told until you are old enough to live on your own. If you're having a hard time, think about the kids who are worse off than you, with out home, food, family, love. I know it's tough! Good luck and hang in there.
2016-05-23 23:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound harsh, but you need to WAKE UP!!! Your children are being neglected and they need you! Whatever the reason is that they are not with you already, I don't know, but you need to go to the courts and get those kids back into a loving, clean healthy enviornment! TODAY!! When you had these children, you made a promise to always protect them, Well mom, it's time you start keeping your promises!
2007-01-23 00:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by JENNIFER C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Children's Services and report it to them. Or call the school and ask them to talk to the boys. I am surprised that the school has not called if they are going to scholl dirty --that would be neglect I think.
Tell the boys to let the school know if they are sick. And if they feel comfortable, perhaps they can talk to someone at school about their home situation.
2007-01-22 15:06:28 · answer #4 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why as a mom would your kids be living with their dad and step mom and not you? If my kids were being neglected like that id get legal advice and do everything in my power to keep them with me. Its your job to protect them.!
2007-01-22 20:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my first bit of advice is to document everything you see. take pics of what you described your children look like and write down dates and times of things your kids tell you. the kids not allowed to talk about you but their dad talks about you makes no sense. it confuses them. you must document so you have something to go to the authorities with. it is the only way to show that you are not just another woman mad at her ex. i cannot stress enough that you document everything. if where you are from is anything like the laws in texas documentation speaks volumes. lastly support your children, comfort them and whatever you do, do not speak negatively to them about their dad or his wife. it could work against you. just tell them that you don't understand why they would say negative things about you andthat you love them.
2007-01-22 15:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by truintexas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am first wondering why they live with there father? There is really not a lot you can do about domestic babbling besides deal with it. I have two children that I take care of myself due to there mother having drug problems, I relate to so much of what you stated. But I am not sure who has the problem with your situation.
2007-01-23 07:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All this and you dont want to offend or get the father angry... Are you kidding...
Who gives a f*** about the father... Do something. Speak up.
This is serious. All these signs are bad, step in now b4 something bad happens.
2007-01-22 15:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Pink Puppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very serious---there are laws that protect children from abuse.
You must immediately report your story to your local social agency dealing with child welfare. They will investigate and take appropriate action.
The police can help and also you should make an appointment to talk to school officials.//
Good luck
2007-01-22 15:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by yogabuddha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no offense here, but you really need to step it up. Your the mother. whos cares if he gets mad? their your kids and will always be. Dont let some other woman get in the way of that. and for him, show him whos boss.
2007-01-22 15:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by mickeys_babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋