my mom has the most hideous styles that she expects me to wear. how do i nicely tell her i don't like her style?
my dad is a hard a*s and he expects me to be him. what should i do?
i am not like my parents is that such a crime HELP!!!
2007-01-22 14:44:19 · 10 answers · asked by candace p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are not going to like what I have to say. By the tone of your question, I think your parents spoiled you rotten. Your parents job is to make you the best person they can, and it isn't to let you raise yourself. You should be grateful you have parents who care what you wear and want you to be with them. Call me when you really need help.
2007-01-22 15:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your parents have strict parents or not? I found that kids who have strict parents tend to want to rebel more, but those with more mellow parents dont feel they need to act out. That was with me. My mom had a very strict dad and as a result she was pretty cool and non-strict with me. Thus I never felt I had to act out. You should tell your parents that if they were a little less strict, you wouldnt want to act out or rebel. Just explain to your mom you have a different style and like to try different looks. As for your Dad, ask him why he is so hard on you all the time. Explain that they are good parents, but you need to make your own choices to grow as a person. Hope things get better
2007-01-22 14:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by blondie79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something. Your parents love you and I hardly think they really want you to be just like them. They also probably don't want you to dress and act like many kids your own age. They are trying to raise you to be a respectable, responsible young lady. Try this. Ask them if there is a time when you can all sit down and visit because you have something you'd like to talk with them about. They'll most likely be all for it. Start by telling them just how you are feeling. Use " I feel" alot instead of "You make me feel". Let them know you have your own personality and sense of style and you would like it very much if you could reach an agreement on styles that they are comfortable with you wearing and that you choose because you like them. Work together on the issue so that everybody is happy and in agreement. Sometimes us parents just need to feel like we're being heard and our wishes respected yet be reminded that you kids also have a mind and flair that is all your own. Expressing it in a decent manner will probably be fine with your folks. Just start communicating. We really aren't all that bad! Stay sweet!
2007-01-22 14:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter and she tells me if she doesn't like (but in a nice way) what I'm recommending for her to wear. I think your mom will understand if you say that you don't think that her hairstyle will look good on you. Regarding your dad, he must love you very much, coz he's over-protective of you. You're so lucky, coz I lost my dad at a very young age. I miss that. Your dad will give you the freedom you want when you reach the right age. If you're more than 21, then you should complain...because you should be allowed to spread your wings and not be kept in a cage, but if you're a minor--less than 18, then expect your father to guard you like a hawk.
2007-01-22 15:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by Liit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise with your parents. Politely explain to them that your tastes are different and you will wear your mom's style around the house, but when you go out you'd be more comfortable in your own clothing. And tell your dad how much you love him, but you are growing into your own person and you would like him to remember that.
2007-01-22 14:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by madmusician007 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you have to admit that your parents care about you and they want you to be better. Well, I think you can talk to your mom and your dad what you like to wear, the job you choose, etc. Sometimes our parents want us to be like them because they think we should be that. Be patient and explain to ur parents, but I think you need time to prove to them your decision are right and it's Ok if you decide everything by yourself. You can consult with them if needing some advice. Good luck.
2007-01-22 14:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by Thuy Nguyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is usually the case, where children are different from their parents, it is important to remember however, that no matter what we do our parents make us who we are today.
I'll admit that Im different to my parents in many ways and have different opinions on subjects to them, but when they voice their opinion about something, ill simply voice mine. Hopefully one day you can do the same in this scenario.
To answer your question, no it is not a crime to be different from your parents, afterall you are you, correct??
2007-01-22 14:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by aussie_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents may drive you nuts but realize how lucky you are to have parents. And what you described is not strict. I grew up in a strict family but it was a loving family.
2007-01-22 14:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how you feel, they will be hurt but they will get over it. tell them you are not them and you are your own person with your own personality attitude and your own style dont yell or be rude about it if they refuse to listen then just deal with it until you can move out trust me there are more things in life to worry about than impressing people or clothes with your dad just pretend to be tough or whatever it is he wants from you you dont have to live there forever
2007-01-22 14:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by angeleyessly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was nothing like my parents either i just told them what i liked and didn't like and explain to them that you think that you ought to able to make these decisions for yourself and that you love them but they need to accept you for who you are and if you need their help then you will ask them
2007-01-22 14:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋