would you have your wedding if you knew this was going to happen.
If you grew up in a state where everybody know each other. If you invite some people and Don't invite the other people. Those other people is going to be mad and tell gossip that is bad about you, it can be true or false gossip. If you invite them all, some are still going to tell gossip about you.
If you didn't want your soon to be husband to know bad gossip about you, would you still have your wedding? or not have a wedding because you don't want him to know your worst past stories from other people?
2007-01-22 14:18:08 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tell your husband-to-be all the stories, no matter how bad they make you appear.
That way, when someone tells him their exaggeratedly negative versions of the tales, he can say: "I know all about it."
Why would you invite ANYONE to your wedding who would say negative things about you?
2007-01-22 14:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone in the whole state knows each other? I didn't know we had any states that small.
It is your wedding and you should invite only those that you want to share in your special day.
I think you should tell your soon-to-be the truth about your past now. If he really loves you it won't matter. If it matters and he turns away, then he wasn't the one you should marry anyway.
I doubt that you can invite the whole state so just pick your favorite people.
2007-01-22 14:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all if you can't even be honest with your husband you should SERIOUSLY rethink this whole marriage idea!
is your past really that bad? Did you lie about something major? like "you were my first" because that lie will bite you on the *** hard and that usually ends up in divorce because that's a HUGE betrayal.
If the people are going to gossip either way then leave them out of your day!
It's YOUR day not theirs. YOU do what YOU want, you make YOURSELF happy. Not some small town gossipers.
2007-01-22 14:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a destination wedding at the same place as your honeymoon. It would keep a lot of the unimportant people away due to the cost of travelling (they're only there to eat, drink, and party anyways). And with the money you'll save, pay for your families to come. It will be more meaningful if the people you truly care about are there and you won't resent having to feed a bunch of people you don't care about.
Your husband shouldn't care about what other people say...he should love you anyways. You can always elope in Vegas!!
2007-01-23 02:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about the gossip. Either way you go people are going to gossip. You have to do what you feel is right. If you both want a wedding, don't worry about the other people just each other.
2007-01-22 14:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats up with that ?? if you are going to marry the man he should and you should be real intimate best friends.. gossip should not change his or your mind.. unless its somewhat true or your still he still is guilty of ??whatever ..most gossip is not true or some truth you know some not blab blab.. talk smack be jealous.. play games he said ,she said stuff if you both want to let it rule your lives well better think why you both want to be together or why you let others gossip nail you.. maybe you may have UN resolved issues with honesty and truth with yourself or him ?? get it done before marriage get strong and honest for each other... but be independently strong for the cruel world ..why do you want to marry.. ask are we both mature and worthy are we true. think ..!and be faithful to your love and true to your words. you could also move from your area and start a new fresh life.. life is about changes..but you have to be honest every where you go there you are.. god bless
2007-01-22 14:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by squawwitoutamule 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your past is the past and even if it's bad gossip, he can not judge you for who you were! He should not judge you at all! He's going to be your husband...What could be soooo bad that you don't want your best friend, husband know???
2007-01-22 14:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by Babs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might consider moving to another city. That's what I did and it was the best decision I have ever made because it ended the influence of these people and I went ahead and achieved a level of success that wold have been impossible otherwise.
2007-01-22 14:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would remove all names of people who you think would speak negatively of you, to others, either before, or at your wedding. If you're left w a handful of people, tell your fiancee you think an intimate and personal ceremony would be be romantic and make you most happy. Best wishes to you, Mandee
2007-01-22 14:23:44 · answer #9 · answered by mandee07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot have other people control your happiness. You should surround yourself with people who love and care about you, not people who are going to sabotage your happiness, this is supposed to be the happiest day of your life and the start of a new life, leave the negativity behind.
2007-01-22 14:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by ♦♥maybelle♦♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋