this is to catholics?

Question

ok i'm a Roman Catholic and i've decided after years of dating [by the way i'm 22] i need to meet someone who beleives in God, prefeably Catholic but if he is of a monotheist religion it's fine by me. Everyone keeps on telling me to meet guys at church but here's the prob:1-when i go to church i dont go there to meet guys but to hear the gospel,2-how do i meet a guy at church, i assume people who go to church go to listen not to check people out...any suggestions? God be with you!

Answer 1

I like the way you think...One should go to church to worship and spend good time with God, not check out the lookers on the other side of the decks.

Having said that, you are on the right track also by identifying that you want a Catholic for a husband. What I do suggest however, is that you leave that matter to God.
From my experience, if you just ask Him to revele His divine will for you and find you what you are looking for, He will do just that, without you even looking...even at church.
If you have a look at how God created eve for Adam, in the book of Genesis it says that "God had brought eve to him..." Meaning that without Adam even realising it, He saw eve there, brought to him by God, and He instantly recognised her and said "This is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh...and God united them as one flesh"
But the trick is to actually get in tune with God's voice and leave the whole thing to Him...do not seek the right partners, do not go to church to meet people...Go to church to meet with God, lift your heart to Him, and when the right time comes (according to God's timing, not ours) He will bring you 2 together...U just have to have faith and trust His divine judgement.

May the Lord of all love fill your heart and grant you all your holy dreams and aspirations.

God Bless.

Answer 2

Shlane,

When people (and I have said this also) say meet some one at church - we do not mean during the service, we mean after or before, with the priest or friend introducing you. After mass there is a social usually, and people gather to talk. Also the church has festivals and other social activities.
No one told you to jump the guy coming out of the confessional, or trip them going to communion.
But to meet people that think similarly to you - go to where they may be. As your faith is important, church would be a good place to meet seriously similar minded men.
A guess at human nature:
The nuns and priest must have seem many couples meet, marry and raise their family, as this is the second oldest way to meet someone. The oldest probably is through your family socials. Oh - Town, and community festivals and picnics/ socials must be better than clubbing - I'd imagine.
(I say socials, because not all have dances.)

Answer 3

The last place I wanted to meet a man was at church. For me there was too much of a cover up of who someone is at church because of where they are at. If you truly want to meet someone then just tell the Lord that you want Him to pick the man who is suppose to be your husband because only He knows the inner parts of a man's heart and mind and will give us what He knows to be best. And He will find a way for you to run into him in a chance meeting and it doesn't have to be at church. It almost makes the meeting more interesting and brings fate into the picture. It could happen at church too but more likely outside of church. Put your trust in Him. Stop looking and let Him bring the man to you. You will know when it happens. He did this for me.

Answer 4

try stick to a catholic man,it makes things easier although inter religion marriages can work. don't go to church to find a man,you are right about that,church is not the time nor the place to find a man, you could try finding one at other functions your church has though. if you like you could also try use a catholic dating service, google catholic(or whatever your search engine is) and one or two should pop up. good luck and may god bless you with a good man who respects you and loves the lord. you will more than likely find him at a time you least expect it so be patient and he will come your way. the site mister ed had is weak and a poor interpretation of scripture,sadly very anti catholic for no reason,may god open his and others eyes to the true holy and apostolic church.

Answer 5

Most Churches, perhaps even Roman Catholic, have activities for teens. SOME have activities for those about 18 to 25. Not necessarily singles only; but, hopefully, not for marrieds only either.

Attending the Worship (RC Mass) is when our focus should be on God.

I John stresses that we should have "fellowship" with God; but, also, we should have fellowship with one another.

If your parish church is small and doesn't have any "activities" for singles, maybe you could try to find one in a larger town/city that has such acitivities?

Answer 6

There is more to church than the services. If you get involved in other church activities, you're more likely to meet someone.

If you're into music, join the music ministry. These people typically have get togethers outside of the church when they socialize.

Your still young. Get involved. That's how people meet.

Answer 7

If you are 22 - go by your local University Campus and see if they have a Newman Center. If they do...go and see what's up. Look for their social calendar, their activities calendar....hang out with good Catholic kids your age. Many of them are probably at the Life March this week.

You don't necessarily have to even go to that school.

Good luck!

Answer 8

here is what i did when i met my husband 6 years ago, i put an add on match.com and i asked only Catholic men respond. and what do you know only catholic men did and we are happily married it will be 5 years next month

Answer 9

Try to like walk up to a guy at church and ask him if he wants some cofee and like say hi and stuff ( dont ask the married dudes or chicks)

Answer 10

Dress to church like you would to a bar!

You'll get guys all over you on the way out.

Good luck!