2007-01-22 14:05:42 · 16 answers · asked by mamania0625 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
AMEN JILL!
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free, and in this fast food mentality society, where the free love movement began the ever increasing downward spiral of morality (however you may define that) and common decency (and common sense), it is no wonder.
Not to mention that men have "lost thier place" and thier definition of "manliness" has been scewed by the feminist movement that tells them that "being a man" is bad and just by virtue of being a man you are somehow evil and live to put women in a second rate position in society. No wonder now days men almost fear women, no wonder they fear comitment, and if they dont fear them, they hate them (thus the rise in domestic violence now days, NOT that it is the woman's fault, by any stretch of the imagination mind you! Wife beaters are less than pond scum)
Men have thier "place" they are hardwired from birth to grow up to be the loving providers of the family of what they need to survive, food, shelter, and examples of what good men are supposed to be to pass on to future generations. But if they are not themselves shown how this works, you get the kind of generation we have now, where the majority of boys grow up with loser, wife beating, video game playing, drug and alchohol addicts or without fathers at all. Then they have the rabid militant feminists telling them at every turn that men are pigs, etc, etc. You cannot judge an entire gender based on the acts of a few, just as so many are screaming today that you cannot judge an entire race based upon the actions of a few. Genderism is just as destructive both ways as racism is.
Yes, men have a "place", women have thier "place" and as long as both do what is in thier nature to do everyone is happy. Being a housewife is not degrading or a second-place position as long as the man keeps his "place" and does what he is supposed to do. And yes, I am a woman, and I would give ANYTHING to be able to take my "place" and be home to take care of and raise my children with these loving values instead of having society as sick as it is today raising them because I cannot afford to do so. If more ppl would do that, maybe the next generation will not have to ask the same question that you have asked.
2007-01-22 14:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by buckstopshere27 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what Jill says is correct. You must demand respect if you are looking for marriage. Men(and women too) will get what they can with the least possible commitment. It's like buying something at the store, you will try to find the lowest price. The"price" for many men is the commitment. They need to feel you are "expensive"-meaning to have you requires a lifetime of serious commitment. A girlfriend boyfriend relationship doesn't lead naturally into marriage. It teaches both parties to stay for as long as it is easy and leave when it gets harder or more demanding. So you must switch your role in order to get what you want. Very few modern people want this , though they want gratification first, commitment only if forced.
2007-01-22 19:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many guys that have commitment issues. Some being, that they don't want to be whipped & to be married would steal their independance. These men are not worth it. Nor are the ones that keep stringing you along for a long time, telling you WHAT you want to HEAR, but NEVER following through.
Don't loose hope! There are men out there that are MATURE enough to commit to something real. They are just few & far between. Don't loose heart, there's someone out there for you!
Things usually have a way of finding you when you stop looking! :)
2007-01-22 14:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage needs to change. Maybe it should be for 'terms'. First would be a 2-3 years term with the option to renew. After that, maybe 5 years terms. And at the end of each term, if both partners do not agree to continue the marriage, then it is absolved. I think that would get a lot of people out of bad marriages that they got into when the were, in essence, kids and didn't know what direction their life might take. And what direction their mate's life might take...
2016-05-23 23:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are plenty of men who want to settle down and get married,most will eventually but maybe it wasn't the right timing for those you have been with or maybe you are doing something to scare them off? who knows, but i wouldnt count on most men to be ready till 30 years old or so. which is a good age especially if the woman is like late 20's too
2007-01-22 14:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by donnyschick33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can get what they want
without having to commit to marriage~~~~~
2007-01-22 14:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what's going on in their lives. If a man is a year out of a relationship or even two years out of a divorce, he may not want to make a big committment yet.
Also, if he's working on a big career change, he'll want room to focus his attention on that, before delving into a marriage.
2007-01-22 14:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men feel marriage takes away their freedom of choice, ability to hang with their friends & takes away from their money. Also they prefer a variety of women, not just one.
2007-01-22 14:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when it comes to commitment, some men are just spineless jellyfish.
2007-01-22 14:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by hottie_spaniard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because, Men don't want lost freedom.
2007-01-22 15:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by e64f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋