I'm interested in my bisexual friend?

Question

I have a guy friend he's bisexual and he doesn't believe in "dating" until he gets to know someone.. I'm interested in him and I think he may be interested (I'm not saying I think he likes me but is interested). Most of the people I hang out with think I'm attractive so I'm pretty sure he's one (the way he talks to me and looks at me) but is it wierd for a girl to like a bisexual guy? just wondering I don't and I am not exactly STRAIGHT but I was just wondering if anyone could help me out

Answer 1

No, it's not weird at all. Unusual maybe, since it's not a situation we find ourselves in all that often (how many people do we know who are bisexual?), but not weird to like another person, and gay, bi, or straight (or your part or his) that's all that's happening...you're finding yourself attracted to him thanks to whatever crazy mystery that makes all of us fall for different people throughout our lives.

There are some complications here, of course, since if you do start dating him you have to be prepared for the unusual situation of dating a guy who has male and female exes. You might even meet them...can you handle that?

Also, are you secure enough to not assume that just because he's bi, that he's secretly gay and will likely leave you? (That could happen, it could even be true, but I've seen this bizarre paranoia happen to one of my friends who's other friends and sister kept telling her over and over again "he's really gay and in denial" -- 9 years and a successful marriage later she can safely say he's not, but she almost left him because of it...and might never have the great husband and kids she has now).

And then there's the possibility that his "bisexuality" is a step along the way to his accepting that he is actually 100% gay. If that is the case (and see the above and don't assume it is or isn't) then just know that's not a reflection on you, only part of his personal journey.

Back to my friend (who's actually sitting next to me right now), she said that having it out in the open has been great for her and her husband. They talk about pretty female models, and turn their heads at hot new male movie stars and joke (joking only!) about having a threesome with the hot guy who checks their membership cards at the gym. She says it can be a different experience, but cool in a way that most of your friends will never have...or like any relationship, it could not work out.

Either way, enjoy that wonderful fuzzy feeling you get when you first start crushing on someone and hope for the best...and then just see where it goes.

The world could use more open minded people like you!

Answer 2

why would it be weird for a girl to like a bisexual guy? That's what that "bi" is there for! If you really like him, go for it and see how it goes! Good luck!