Why don't Guys seem interested in me?

Question

Ok, i know im not completely beautiful, but i'm not ugly.. im not being stuck up, i just refuse to believe that im ugly. Im not. Yes, im a big girl, but im not fat-fat.. im just large as in wide shoulders and large framed.

I dont get it.. because the only guys that show me any attention are my best friends!!! I've always gotten along with guys better, even when i was a little girl! I'm just more comfortable around guys, but the only ones that notice me are the ones who are like my big brothers and best friends.

And worse, there are a very few guys i even find interesting at my school because the only ones that are worth even thiking about are my friends and i don't see them the way my friends do. my friends all think im crazy to not be ALL OVER most of my friends because they are sexy.. yes, they are adorable.. but they're like my family.

The rest of the male population has its many HUGE problems such as being total LOSERS! I mean.. the smoke, they dip, the drink, they SUCK!

Ok, by male population, I mean within my school.. i dont go anywhere else to meet guys! the only places to hang out around here are a coffee shop where potheads hang out (get past the potheads and its awesome!) and the movies.. that it.

and my loser, i mean they all think they are the sexiest thing on the planet and bump all the rest of the world.

I do agree though, my best friend once allied himself with my daddy and they were planning a plot to beat the mess out of this dude who pushed me because i told him to leave a special-ed. student alone (he was being mean to him!)... so yeah.. my male friends don't help at all.

oh, and i do wear make up, im not a total butch!

*to the person about my "fat virgin mcdonalds eating" self.. one, im proud of my virginity!. two, i dont like mcdonalds.. its a bunch of greasy fat..it IS possible to be fat and eat healthy and BE healthy you know! Its not like i eat the whole world just because im fat. I enjoy sodas, but i like healthy food.

Answer 1

just be yourself. remember there is someone for everyone. may take time but its worth it in the end.

Answer 2

They may be but with all of your (male) buddies around they're probably scared to even approach you. They may think that your in a relationship with one or more of them. PLUS, you're a "big" girl (large framed) so that narrows the field to begin with. Don't rush it. Be confident that you are a beautiful human being, as God made you. Pray that you'd like to date some boys to see what they're like. Get to know some and see what you think you've been missing. It would likely be best that you not think that the bulk of the male population are losers. You must have faith that there is someone for you because there is. Focus on that instead of being judgemental towards most males. That should improve your results.

Answer 3

If you have that mentalilty about the rest of the population of guys, then your population is really small. There are a lot of hot guys out there with great personalities and I'm sure most are probably looking for a girl like you. Don't worry. Just broaden up your circle a little. Go to different places to hang out. Meet new guys, you never know, some of the guys you might think are total losers at your school may turn out to be amazing hotties; just give them the chance to prove you wrong, and you'll see. PS Please be patient, your perfect guy is waiting for you out there.

Answer 4

Hi. The following "The rest of the male population has its many HUGE problems such as being total LOSERS! I mean.. the smoke, they dip, the drink, they SUCK!" may have a lot to do with it. You may have to change a bit in the way you think. I can't (and won't) tell you how to think, but most guys would rather not be thought of in this way. Open your mind, open your heart, and someone will come along for you to like and maybe love.

Answer 5

If I tell you, you have to use the knowledge carefully and not abuse it! You can take what you want more than half the time. And if you miss what can happen? What is someone going to say?

So start a list and check availability. Remember that the male is really the weaker sex. Then use excessive force if needed.

The danger is that you discover your ability and later cannot be happy because you have lost interest in developing someone to a higher potential when you can dump the guy and get fresh meat. It can be a dangerous trap.

Answer 6

Well.....the guys in your school are not the only guys you will ever meet. Plus... why don't you actually LOOK at your guy friends??? Chances are a few of them are hung up on you and dont want to admit it...and the best boyfriends are ones that were a best friend first. Other than that..I say lower your standards...quit waiting for only the Brad Pitts to notice you, there may be an Owen Wilson who is already in love with you!

Answer 7

I don't think it sounds as if you're not a beautiful girl, you probably are. I think it's just that at this point in your life, you get along with men on a different level- as friends. You are comfortable with men, too comfortable! There's nothing wrong with that, but it kind of limits you to being friendship material to many of them rather than dating material. It's hard for guys to see women in both lights. They either want to date you, or be friends with you-especially when they're younger. When you're a little older, things will change naturally for you. If you don't want to wait for that, then you will have to change how you relate to guys that you may be interested in and try not to be overly friendly to the ones that you would rather date then be buddies with.

Answer 8

Maybe because you don't interact around enough guys. Find other guys to hang out with at other places. I know this may sound corny, but church, community center, or even clubs at school the guys might be in. Drama Club is a great way to meet other funny cute guys. Hang out with more guys and see what happens. In the meantime work out a bit. Try to impress them. I bet you are beautiful, your just hiding it under shyness. Stand out and be proud. But don't be obnoxious or to pushy. I hope this all works out for, and you get your prince charming. But practice makes perfect. It may take a while, but its WAY worth waiting for a right guy to go out with other then a jerk that you don't even like. DON'T go out with someone you don't like. Its the worst thing to do. Trust me. :]

Answer 9

Oh, my... look at me, I'm not ugly, I'm just a little fat, I just like to eat at McDonalds, what's the problem with that, huh... why aren't guys like Brad Pitt interested in me...? The other guys are losers, they drink water, they eat food, they study hard for school, only I am the greatest girl in the world the most beautiful, look at me, look at me I say to you!!! I'm a gonna slap you if you don't! Listen to me, it's for your own good! Don't you understand you're like my brother and my family, are you stupid or something? Don't you know I like Brad Pitt and stuff???

etc etc
you are crazy... selfish immature virgin fat 17 year old girl... you need to grow up

Answer 10

You're just mad because no one finds you attractive. Since you would rather hang out with the guys more, you probably act a bit tomboyish. Well, think of it this way, a man comes by you and he acts a bit girly. Would you like to go out with a girly man?...many girls wouldn't. So maybe you should act a bit more feminine. Maybe you should also jog. It will make your large frame seem a bit smaller. Also, wear some make-up. Not bad make-up or too much. just some long black lashes and juicy lipgloss and your ready to go and see men turn their heads.

Answer 11

Be more tolerant and don't judge everyone so hard, you'll be much happier, you will see. Be nice to everyone, not only your friends. And don't become what that person said about you (eat McDonalds, like Brad Pitt, selfish, crazy etc)... I'm sure you are not like that, but never become that.