I've seen it time and time again,a woman stays with a man that treats her awful.When I see that I want to ask why? Frankly it makes me sick.I was brought up to treat women with respect.Ladies ,I just dont get it.
2007-01-22 13:44:12 · 23 answers · asked by rockman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lots of variables here but the most common thread that I have seen is simply lack of self esteem and self worth. MANY women dont expect better because they dont believe they deserve better.
There is also the population of women who find that type of relationship normal as they have never known anything else.
good question with multiple and complex answers.
2007-01-22 13:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same amount of sense as you do....I dont get it. I'm in a good relationship. I know if my sister or best friend thought otherwise, and expressed to me how they feel about my guy, then I'd consider what they see, and talk about it with them, and my boyfriend.
My best friends not in a very good relationship, I've told her a couple of times, and she said that he's not like that all of the time, and she only tells me the bad stuff, never the good, so I only know part of the story. She'll probably marry him, but as long as she's happy, I wont do anything to wreck that. But if they do break up, and something really bad happens, I'd be there for her when she needs me.
2007-01-22 13:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, we're stupid! To think that this guy loves me, he'll change for me, or I can make this work! It's said to admit this, but I was one of these women. Now, I look back on it as I WAS SO STUPID! I'm not afraid to admit it, back then when someone would say why are you with him? I would reply with because we "love" each other. Boy did I need a clue! One day I had an epiphany and told him it was time for him to leave! Now, I wait for it to be time to find the right one again, and when he comes, this time he'll be the nice guy, not the bad guy thinking he's the nice guy! I hope that helps you! Also, a lot of women love bad boys!
2007-01-22 13:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by lil' miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women like bad boys, that is an incorrect statement and saying that good guys are boring, that is also very wrong.
Women stay with bad boys because bad boys tend to have this 'thing' about them, a personality trait if you will, that kinda sucks the girl in to stay with him. Most of the time, the girl knows he's bad - its just hard for her to get out of the relationship!
If a girl doesnt like a good guy it might be because he lacks confidence or something...
2007-01-22 13:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it's very common. Some women think that they can do no better than what they have and believe that if he's treating her in this way, he must care about her. Others, once they've realized what kind of situation they're in, are scared to get out of it because the man is unpredictable. He very well could have threatened her in a multitude of ways.
2007-01-22 13:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by Licia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not exclusive to women. I have known many men who stayed with a woman who treated him awful too. It can be for a huge number of reasons. Keep in mind too, that what you think is "awful" might be nothing to someone else. Everyone has their own standards. Like, Mary might like a man who is always gentle and sweet, who opens doors for her, always says thank you and kisses her on the forehead before he retires to his own, separate bedroom. Sue prefers a man who comes on strong, works with his hands, talks like a trucker and never turns down an opportunity to debate, but when they go to bed, it's magic. Mary thinks Sue's husband treats her "awful". I say to each his or her own.
2007-01-22 14:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do it because they have been threatned by the man...I don't know about you but I don't happen to like having an assault rifle pointed at my back as I'm walking out the door carrying my luggage. Some have been raised to think that any man is better than no man, no matter how badly he treats her. Others just got themselves into situations they don't know how to get out of.
2007-01-22 13:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amanda has a good point... to a woman, nice guy is synonymous with "WUSS". It's got nothing to do with logic, reason, or common sense...it's called "attraction." You can treat a woman with respect and not be a pushover at the same time, it just takes some confidence from you.
2007-01-22 13:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by woobinator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women want really badly to be the one he changes for. Most eventually grow ouut o it or wake up, but some never do. It's a romantic thought to think someone would love you enough to change who they are, or to treat you better than they do everyone else.
2007-01-22 13:48:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jennylind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long time ago in high school I went out with this guy who treated me like crap, and I didn't leave him for a long time because I was scared of him and what he would do if it happened, so I guess that could be a reason for some...
I'm glad I got over that... :)
2007-01-22 13:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋