You and your wife love each other alot and she gives you so much attention untill little Buck II comes along then she acts like she dont even want you around. I take care of all the bills and we agreed for her not to work so she could be home with my son. so why cant she find time for me anymore, i still have needs too. am i being jealous of my son are am i in the right.
2007-01-22 13:24:21 · 16 answers · asked by tex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I just wanted to add that she is a great mom. She takes very good care of my son. He is now 4 months old today and hasen't been sick once. she is 19 and couldn't be a better mom.
2007-01-22 13:43:45 · update #1
no. giving her time off work to be a "house mom" was the right thing to do. but also in the same sense its also like a full time job. she may not have to get up and do the whole morning routine and make sure she gets to work on time and then at 3 punch the time clock and call it a day. her job doesnt stop when u get home. she goes from the time that baby wakes up until the time she goes to bed and then she is probably getting up at least once a night. she is TIRED!! its not that she doesnt want u around, its just that by the time u get home she is so worn out it takes everything she has to crawl into bed at night. next week or when ever u can find time from work, tell her that she needs a vacation. even if its just 2 days, send her to the spa, or let her just lock herself in her room and rest without worrying about the baby. 2 days of no worries and she will be ready for another month or 2 house playing mom. good luck i hope i helped u a little.
2007-01-22 13:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by babyblues452 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say how old your child is. If he is only a few months old this is a normal thing.
First she is exhaused. and if this is a new babe her hormones are out of wack.
If he is older then she is EXHAUSED. and she spends all day with a child. She needs a chance to be with adults and do adult things.
Give her a day off once in a while. Let her know ahead so she can plan. She may just sleep or she may go off by herself, or spend some time with friends. You take care of your son that day. Do not distrube her on her day off. If you can't figure out something just deal (she has to)
You could cook a meal once in a while, or order out or take her out if you can't or won't learn to cook.
She is on duty 24/7 with this kid. Give her a break and do it frequently.
Let her know you are going to do this because you realize she must be tired, frustrated, and going nuts taking care of this child that you both made.
Try running the vacuum once in a while, and doing some chores. Your work ends when you leave your job. Her's never ends.
This will go a long way toward getting your foot back in the door with her. She doesn't need more dragging her energies like a husband who is feeling sorry for himself because she is not showereing him with attention. She only has so much energy.
Who gets up in the middle of the nite when he needs a parent? Is it always her? You could alternate this. You could change diapers and bathe him.
2007-01-22 21:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by mutvulture 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sting a little, but GROW UP!
Are you seriously fighting for your wife's attention over your own child? THEN WHY DID YOU HAVE KID? Obviously, you're not through being a child yourself.
If you had a heart and a brain, you would see that your wife's care for your son is indirect love to you. Once you have a child, it's all about the family--your selfish wants and needs no longer matter. If you can't make yourself happy by watching her love for your child, then you're only causing an emotional tug-of-war that your exhausted wife doesn't need.
By the way, I'm so glad you pay the bills so that you can use that to rub in your wife's face when she "doesn't have enough time for you." WAH!!!! Get over yourself!!!
2007-01-22 21:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she doesn't work doesn't mean she isn't tired. She is extremely focused on the child right now (I'm assuming he is a baby.) Once he goes to sleep, offer her some attention, a back rub, foot massage, or rent her a movie she's been wanting to see and watch it with her. Tell her that you understand that there is a lot going on with the baby. Tell her you think she is doing a good job.Tell her you miss her. Let her know you want to spend time with her.
Many mothers go through post pardum depression which can drastically alter her mood. Is this possibly the case? Also, if it is a new baby, she's probably not feeling to sexy, and may think that is what you are after.
2007-01-22 21:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by tryingmybest79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think anyone is in the wrong. this is always a touchy subject. have a talk to your wife and just tell her you miss her. That you love them both and you want to make more time for the both of them. she probably feels time away is pulling you to apart even more, just be with her understanding spending all day everyday with your son is a big thing. spending time with your son giving him a bath taking time for the family can be a real turn on. flirt with her, you have to understand she is probably feeling the same she needs as well. give her a break you are both parents. take some of the pressure off her.
2007-01-22 21:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is now about 2 months old and even though I do work full time, it's still tiring to have a new born. Talk to your wife - you might even consider finding someone to keep the child for a weekend and take her away from some R&R.
2007-01-22 21:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your wife about it. She should still make time for you, but yeah, a son will probably get shot to the top of her list. She made him, they'll have that special connection that you and ehr wont ever have. Sorry, but its true. Dont be jealous of your son. Maybe try to get more involved with the two of them. Have days at the museum together, or a family picnic, or dinner or something. Try to show more interest in your kid and your wife. Good luck
2007-01-22 21:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she's forgotten about you, but don't worry, as the baby gets older she'll come around because he won't need so much attention. It does put a strain on the relationship, but just be strong. It won't last forever. You say that she's a great mom, so I'm sure that she will eventually give you the attention you deserve.
2007-01-22 22:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by laedeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mother will always drop what they are doing for their child, regardless. Since you're a man, you don't understand maternal instincts. You have absolutely no reason to be jealous, she loves you too, I'm sure... but it's a different kind of love. A child is hopeless, needs protection, attention, love, guidence, etc. etc...YOU DON'T!! You're a grown man, stop being jealous of a child.
2007-01-22 21:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by squigglepie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happened to me..... I'm divorced now, not by my choice,.. My heart is still broken and my son is now 11 years old.
Tell her how you feel, but remember she is doing her best to be a wonderful mother, so support this and she will see you again soon if you don't blow it..
But let her know you need her too and miss her.
Good luck.. And tell her everyday that you love her soo much...
2007-01-22 21:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by Vindicatedfather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋