Ok so me and my bf have been together for 14 months and i can actually say that I am in love with this man and would love to marry him. He is everything to me and I am greatful to have a honest and caring man like him in my life to call mines. I love him so much but I wonder if i love him too much. I have always heard that men like a challege and i dont make anything a challenge for him because i want him to see that i ginuwinely love him. Do u think I should toughen-up? respective responses please.
2007-01-22 13:22:50 · 14 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well it really depends on the men i think. not all men prefer challenges, especially after you've already developed a relationship. it should get easier from there. but just don't let him roll over you for something that you insist upon.
don't change yourself for the sake of change. he loves you for you.
2007-01-22 13:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all actuality, if you are questioning whether you are LOVING a person too much, then there may be some soul searching you need to do. I think you have to decide for yourself - am I acting this way because I really care for this person or because I want him to like me and to see that I am a good catch? There is a difference! Love is a difficult thing - we can really feel like we are in love, when in actuality we are really attached and intertwined in another person's life. I think as women, we have to be rational, mature and realistic about this. If you are giving, giving and giving and he isn't doing the same for you, then you need to check the relationship and check what you truly are feeling. Love is not about games or being a challenge - you shouldn't have to adjust your behavior nor do you have to PROVE that you love him. Something just doesn't seem right - I guess I would encourage you to sit and think about this question: Why are you so worried about your BF knowing that you love him? Are you afraid of losing him??? I hope everything works out for the best for you!
2007-01-22 13:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are whipped..... A little too submissive??? Yeah.. Men do like the chase and if you are going to willingly give everything to him so easily then you better prepare for what is to come next.... Sorry to say!!! Just learn to say no every once in a while.... He'll probably respect you more (not saying that he doesn't).
2007-01-22 13:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't have to be MEAN about it, or start fights with him....but if there's something you dislike or if you're always compromising what you want to make him happy....you need to learn to discuss it with him. Believe me, no matter how much you love him...if you ALWAYS give in to make him happy, when will you be happy? You will end up feeling like he has erased you. You won't have your own interests anymore, or your own likes or dislikes. They will all be his, and you will resent him for it...even if he didn't force you into that. You two can make compromises for each other. It's not fair if you're the only one who does.
2007-01-22 13:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somethings toughing up might just make matter worster but dont get to tough. Dont let him know that you change in any way. I understand that you love him. Just dont be rough all the time play fight with him, role play, do something romantic for you man but keep you soft side close.
2007-01-22 13:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by lissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think all females in general feel that they love their man more than thier man loves them .. And thats just because we are just too emotional and love to show and describe our love to them all the time. You arent whipped, you are just in love and enjoying the beginning of your relationship. If he ever gets angry at you for making plans with a friend and then you have to cancel them to make him feel better or not let him get angry with you .. THEN YOU ARE WHIPPED .. For now .. Enjoy!!!
2007-01-22 13:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by SadEyeS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOO don't play games.. Honesty is always the way to go. YOur now whipped. Your in love.... Just remember that love is a choice, so you choose to love him this much.
Love is a choice............ don't play games with it. its too important
2007-01-22 13:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Vindicatedfather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he love you? If he loves you, don't start changing for no reason at all... Relax and enjoy the experience.
2007-01-22 13:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by buster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on the guy. if you want to act tougher then do it but it seems that not acting tough has worked for you for so many months that it doesn't really seem neccesary
2007-01-22 13:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by dragon_freak07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, thats an interesting question! lol! 20/F wondering the same thing... holla back
2007-01-22 13:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by Wanda P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋