there is this guy at work that I have been talking to for about a month and a half now, we joke we cut up we enjoy each others company while at work so much its like we go there just to see each other. So heres the problem...he acts like he is as crazy about me as I am about him, but he wont tell me how he feels. Its never even brought up. We just hang out. He knows how I feel and others that we work with say they think he is just as mad about me as I am about him. So what do I do? Just keep on like we are or should I stay away fromm him? If his feelings arent the same I am going to be hurt really bad. I need help! I want him in my life so bad. Its almost like we are suppose to be together. I am afraid to tell him how I feel even tho I am sure he knows. Everyone says I should slow down that its going to happen. What you guys think? Anything you can add will help!
2007-01-22 13:20:21 · 13 answers · asked by dljtr37 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him....... Don't waste anymore time. Tell him you enjoy hanging out with him and are dying to kiss him. If you get hurt, you get it over with, instead of dealing with wasting your time waiting for him. He may not know how to ask you out either....
2007-01-22 13:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by Vindicatedfather 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People have often said "Never date someone from work".
I have. I married someone I met from work. And I divorced that person.
Once, I went on a blind date and the girl and I hit if off right away. But, alas, she said that I am the type of person she would like to work with - not date.
Lastly, you and your co-worker are in a comfortable surrounding for both of you. You will never know how you two will be without spending time away from work - and I don't mean coffee or lunch break.
So my advice, go on a "blind" date and see what develops.
PS. Guys also like it when they hang out with the girl at work - its a macho thing -OR- the guy is gay and likes hanging out with women.
2007-01-22 13:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by proofofignorance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened here is a common tragedy happening in workplaces everywhere--you spend an awful lot of time at work, with the same people, and you are bound to have feelings for someone. That's just how it works!
My advice? It was told to me long ago that you don't s**t where you eat, meaning, don't date people you work with. Why? Because if it goes sour, then you still have to see each other for work purposes and things can get even worse.
But, if you "can't live without him," then just continue to have a good time with him at work--what's wrong with that? Unless you truly feel there is a connection that is deeper than sexual attaraction--DON'T DO IT! YOU'LL BE SORRY, I PROMISE YOU!
2007-01-22 13:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...45 whole days...hmmm. Yes, dear...you need to slow down a bit. A month and a half is a bit soon to start picking out china patterns or baby names. Take the time to really get to know each other first before plowing into a potential disaster. If he feels the same infatuation you do...he's not going anywhere.
2007-01-22 13:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by woobinator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have thought about every aspect of this situation which is good. you will be hurt if he doesnt feel the same, but you are driving yourself crazy by not knowing what he is feeling. i think you should break the ice and just ask him flat out if he would like to get out sometime away from work. maybe schedule an outting among friends so that you still have the "friend" comfort level you have now. but i think its time to see where its going, you are way ready to know. lol if your friends say he feels the same, maybe they know something you dont so dont be too hasty. sounds like timing will be everything in this one. good luck lol
2007-01-22 13:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truely feel for you sweetheart but I want to let know that we men are stupid. Men like the thrill of the hut. We will not appreciate the a diamond that is just handed to us as much as the one we have to work for..... But as for this man if you have been as obvious as you wrote that you have been it means one of the following:
a. You have been put on hold to be called/opened in a emergency.
b. He knows that work place romances don't work out very often and will leave you and this man staring at each other everyday after.
c. He is just that clueless (which we can be sometimes as we are not mind-readers).
I just wanted to let you know want you maybe getting into.
2007-01-22 14:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by Bishop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been since you told him that you love him or like him? Is there something in the way that is keeping him from saying he loves or likes you? Is he married or something? Maybe hes shy! It all depends on how long you told him, sometimes if you say ask the guy to soon he will freak out and run. I don't know everything about this actally so I have to go along with what your friends were saying to you!
2007-01-22 13:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by freedom_rang_2005 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's way cute girl! It sounds like my situation a little bit!! :)
I say the attraction is mutual and you should just go for it!! Tell him how you feel. But, please keep in mind it will change the dynamics of your relationship and the friendship could be ruined. Also, you do work with him, so if things fizzle out it would be awkward at work!
Good luck girl! :)
2007-01-22 13:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Starting a relationship in the work place can end up very badly. Believe me I have been there. My advice is make sure it is what you want cause if it ends up bad you may have to find new job. It can become very uncomfortable.
2007-01-22 13:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might just be being nice to you. Why don't you back off just a little bit and see if he steps up to the plate. If he really likes you then he will continue on being the close friends that you seem to be. Guys like a little challenge.
2007-01-22 13:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by KAREN P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋