There's this guy at my gym, he's actuaaly a trainer there, and my problem, is the fact that I don't know if he's flirting with me or not.For instance, around christmas, he came up to me and asked me how my holidays and I told him it was okay, then he asked me, who did I spend it with.And then there was another occasion where he came up to me and told me I looked sad, and wanted to see me smile, and as I was leaving asked me when will I be back.I'm thinking , well maybe he's just being friendly, but then he told me to call him on his cell phone, in which I did, and he told me that he would love to be my friend, even if he seen me outside of the gym, and told me that if I ever wanted to go to a movie or hang out, to hit him up, and then he invited me to his bible study class!
2007-01-22 13:17:14 · 7 answers · asked by Brooke 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Ok, this is without knowing what type of Christianity you practice. But here's my take.
Normally, I'd say he was really into you. But without knowing how much YOU talk about religion with him, then the fact that he's already inviting you to his bible study class seems to me that he's using the "flirting" to get you to join his church.
I could be wrong. But I knew some people (back when I was in high school) that would use this same (or a similar) tactic to get you to come to their church. Being a small town, these were usually the Assembly of God crew (as the Baptists actually left people alone!)..or Holy Rollers, as the Catholics called them!...but unless you yourself are a VERY outspoken religious person, he probably is trying to get you to join his church to be "saved".
Hope you don't take offense at my take on this, but I call it like I've seen it in the past, and I've seen this game FAR too many times for me to mistake it. Tread lightly.
2007-01-22 13:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to communicate to you that he likes you without saying anything that is going to get him in trouble at his job and without putting himself too far out there. He sounds like a little bit shy in that he didn't just ask you for a date, but to go out as "friends." If you really like him, ask him out, but realize he's probably not gonna move as fast as some guy from a club.
2007-01-22 21:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by deangowarrior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person that says he's trying to get you to join his cult, uh, I mean church especially if you and he have not spent alot of time talking about religion. Also, it is unethical for a trainer to try and use the gym to recruit members to his church. Make a joke like, "are you trying to get me to join a cult?" and see how he reacts.
2007-01-23 06:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by isis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with his behavior. Maybe he needs a friend and you seem to be a nice person.
What's wrong with making a new friend? If he is interested in you for more than friendship and you are not interested, just be honest and tell him.
2007-01-22 21:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by chestnutlocs1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say probably looking to date, since he's actually trying to make plans with you. be sure you know what you're getting into with this one, though. bible study class........
2007-01-22 21:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by practicalwizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Says he's exploring a relationship with you.
2007-01-22 21:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by djm749 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds normal.... go for it.... if it's not right, you'll know
Be Blessed!
2007-01-22 21:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by ramzee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋