I was walking out of the mall with my bf and just as I was walking out the door in the reflection I seen my bf give a double glance at this one girl at the entrance. She was indeed good looking, but when I confronted him about it he totally denied it. Saying that he was looking at some dude with pamplets. Which I don't believe at all. My conflict right now is how should I deal with this? I mean, my bf is faithful, and all but I feel so betrayed. I can't help but think that he was looking and lying to me. Should I believe him or what? Before in the past I thought that I caught him looking but he always blames it on him being "snoopy" and not checking some other chick out. I just don't know what to believe. Right now, he's moping in the livingroom with no tv on, and I have been ignoring him since. What do you think about this situation? Please no vulgar or disrespectful comments or you will be reported. Serious answers only, please.
2007-01-22 13:13:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. You shouldn't be upset about this situation. Sometimes our eyes will glance at other people male or female. It doesn't mean that he is comparing you to other women. It doesn't seem to me and by the way you talk that he purposely looks at other females. It seem like he just looks at who ever is insight. Don't feel bad about him looking around. Be sure of yourself. You already know he loves you he can't give you any more then that. It doesn't mean he will leave you for anyone either. Don't ignore him, always remember how much you love him and don't ever take life for granted in your relationship. Somethings are not worth a second of arguing about. Every moment of your life is precious. Don't let anything or anybody come between the love you two have for each other. Spent each day with him as though it was your last. With this in mind you will let small things be. Because they don't mean anything. Let him know that it makes you feel very uncomfortable but don't fight about it if he does it again. Really there's no meaning to looking. Looking doesn't mean you want to always get with someone. Most people you glance at you will never see again. So you know that's just something in the moment. I do understand that you feel bad about this. But just remember he loves you. Remember he cares for you. Remember you are the one that he's with. If he wanted someone else he wouldn't be with you. Tell him you are sorry for this because you have wasted valuable time in your life about his eyes. When his heart is all that matters.
2007-01-22 13:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by relationcounseling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very natural for people to look at the oppisite sex, Men as well as Woman do it. If your bf is faithful, then you have nothing to worry about. As for him lying about it.........that may be because he was afraid you would get mad, and he didn't want to fight with you.
If you really do understand that all people enjoy the beauty in others, then just tell him that "it's ok to look, just don't touch"
If he knows you won't get mad at him if he notices a pretty girl, then maybe he won't lie to you about it in the future.
2007-01-22 13:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by adkalk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We guys look at girls all the time! It's normal. It's just "hey, she's not bad!" and then we move along. That's it. Doesn't say he's going to hit on her later, so don't worry.
Don't ladies do the same thing with men?
2007-01-22 13:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by The Nomad Yokai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moping... its cause ur ignoring him. he feels bad because he looked at another girl. and the fact that ur pissed at him. u just have to accept that all guys do this. its bound to happen. its ok, dont feel so betrayed. its a fact of life.
2007-01-22 13:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by bcwarrior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he said yes. u'd get pissed off. so he lied. he's just looking not acting. if he's flirting with other girls then its diff. ppl can't help but look. don't u check out guys?
2007-01-22 13:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay he's YOUR boyfriend. so don't get in a tizzy if he looks at someone else, because you probably do it too without realizing it. Its okay, just talk to him calmly.
2007-01-22 17:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by cheerfan333 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i really dont know just get proof and work it out with ur bf!!!
2007-01-22 13:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
believe what u think u believe
2007-01-22 13:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by angelz0101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋