I'm confused.. i'm 15 & I been w/ my bf for 5 months... we love each other... but... we just started holding hands....a month ago... & hugging [[& like not even real hugs... just the one hand one]]...like 2 weeks ago... we r very shy w/ each other... mostly cus we met through IM... & we talk for hours there but ones at school... I don't have nothing to say...& he dosen't either...I try to b less shy but I can't cus that's the way I am.. & I know he's not shy.. but w/ me he is... I want to b like all the other couples are... not shy w/ each other.. always hugging...kissing... & being cute... what do I do? =]] thanks!...
2007-01-22 12:48:21 · 14 answers · asked by Velizabeth! =] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i suggest you both do things together.break the ice by holding him first,you can also kiss him intimately to see maybe he will react like that.
get to movies together and go out to places that you can express your feeling without being too timid or nervous.
all you need is just to make the move,hug him intimately,look in to his eyes like your life depend on him.say some lovely words to him,like you make me feel good,I'm happy to be with you.
when in school you can make eye contact with him,blow him a kiss then cross your two hands across your chest,like i love you cross my heart stuff from a distance where he can see you.
you could also slip a note to him when you have the opportunity to be close to him just to say how you feel about him. good luck
2007-01-22 13:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by bright 247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, how to start here. I stared dating at age15. I was never shy w/the hugy kissy holding hands leaning on his shoulder hims giving me piggy back rides stuff. But he was. Only around our friends though. We didn't want to exclude them. Maybe that's his problem. Maybe he went through a bad relationship and was burned. Who knows. Now- you will hate what I am about to say but thats ok. You are just in the starting ages of b/f and g/f. He is too. You both have a lot of learning to do. You want more of the hugy kissy stuff. Maybe he's not comfortable with that yet. Now that you tottally hate me for saying that- let me say one more thing- the same goes for me!!! I (and my b/f) have learned so much over these last past 9 months that we have dated eachother, about communication respect and the touchy feely stuff. He found out that I am very much into PDA. And once he knew, he made an effort to being more touchy feely. You need to talk to your b/f and ask him about it. Communication is key to any realtionship. Good luck!
2007-01-22 13:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by blue_eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a hard one! But, here's a suggestion MAKE THE FIRST MOVE! The relationship might improve in terms of intimiacy (can't spell that word). As for convo try reading the newspaper and talk about the day's event. Or bring up some personal stories. I've never been in a relationship but i hope this helps. Good Luck!
2007-01-22 12:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Some Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are only 15, you still a little Barbie (beautiful doll), you shouldn’t be thinking in what to do. I recommend you to study, keep on with you life until you measure off, and then perhaps you can begin thinking about dating some one. Just think what you will be 5 years later. Hey girl, but if you want to go crazy and do the wrong thing (stupid thing) then I suggest you to stumble on a mature man, who can take care of you. Hope you take my first advice. Thank you.
2007-01-22 13:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by FlowMaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem! You guys need to open up with each other and if you know that he isnt the one who will YOU should make the first move. But if you arent going anywhere outside the IM world you guys arent for each other a relationship means communication and talking to each other outside of cyberspace too.
2007-01-22 12:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mariniac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initiate the contact. If you want to behave like the other couples you see, don't be afraid to initiate the contact and see how he responds. If he can talk to you on IM and not in person, there is something wrong and he might not be right for you in the first place.
2007-01-22 12:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and do something together. Go to a funfair. Go skiing. Go surfing. Doesn't matter what. Share an activity. That'll break the slience.
2007-01-22 12:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You of direction rushed into thisrelationship too quick... that's common of someone your age to attempt this. merely get to understand him extra effective as a chum and flow from there... you won't be able to easily date someone you somewhat recognize, at this age even with yet commonly it does no longer artwork like that.
2016-12-02 22:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it some time, or u try 2 be more outgoing with him
2007-01-22 12:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by suzie. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have more intimate convos with each other. that way, you can be more intimate in real life. it will seem more normal in real life and you will be more comfortable with it.
2007-01-22 12:51:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋