If your girlfriend kept pictures of herself and her ex-boyfriend how would you feel and re-act?

Answer 1

I dont see the problem, unless she is whippin em out for a steamy bean flick.

Answer 2

Where are the pictures? If it was a romantic looking picture and it was sitting next to a stand near her bed, or if it was hanging on the wall, or anywhere else in plain view - I'd be a little weirded out. I'd question why she kept them there and if she still had feelings for the guy and probably ask her to get them away from me. However, if they were sitting in a shoe box under her bed, or in an album in her closet, I wouldn't really care. If she wants to keep her photos, they ARE hers and you can't really ask her to toss them in the trash...it's a bit unfair. Girls are sentimental about that sort of thing. But if she's flaunting her past relationships...well, that's not really cool.

Answer 3

No, i dont imagine you need to be disillusioned, as she's been relationship you, and if the laptop become cluttered and he or she might want to infrequently see it, she probable merely couldnt be stricken with it. i am going to understand your aspect to some extent, notwithstanding that is a minor challenge, and perchance you're somewhat insecure or over smooth. when you're making a huge deal about this on your gf, she'll locate this truly annoying. She should be a laid decrease back personality to have left it so long, because she didnt see it as an major challenge, so be an same, relax, that is a computer history, that is all. to cope with it, concentration on the relaxing you've jointly and each and every of the laughs and tremendous cases.. they are going to far outweigh some dated photo she will infrequently see.

Answer 4

I remember dating a guy that kept love letters from his ex's. I was a little uncomfortable but it was early in the relationship and it was the first time I had seen them. I asked him 'why' he kept the letters and he said ''just memories''.

I didnt mention the letters until we started to get more serious in the relationship, before I asked him to destroy the letters. Which he didn't do! So I never felt comfortable that he was completely satisfied with our relationship. We ended up finishing the relationship (not because of the love letters). Months, even years later he still contacts me. Why? Because he has kept pictures and letters from our past relationship. He can't let go because he keeps reminding himself of the past.

Wait until the relationship becomes serious then tell her that you would like her to destroy the pictures of her ex. In fact try to make it symbolic together. Symbolising that she has moved on and is now taking the relationship more seriously.

Good luck x

Answer 5

sad i know but most girls have a shoe box full of old stuffs, love letters from when in school valentines cards phots ect at the time they mean something but the fact there are all in a shoe box under the bed that never gets opens unless having a sort out shows the are the last thing on the mind and not vip anymore. things like this is to remind you of those good times but how better things are now. to remenis i suppose on old time but thats all they are old times. i on the other hand found a photo of my boy and his ex g/friend and didnt take my own advise and threw it out oops he has'nt even noticed yet !!

Answer 6

Keeping pictures of the ex, doesn't necessarily mean she still loves him. I was with someone for 3 years who I lived with and it was really serious. I can't help but have alot of photos with him in and I still have them. I don't have any feelings for him but my time with him was a very big part of my life and getting rid of those photos would be like erasing 3 years.
My boyfriend I have now accepts that this is part of my past and doesn't mind. Although, I don't have them "on display". I think if they were on display it would be very different.

Answer 7

Ask her what it means to her. And let her know what it means to you. Don't bring it up before or after sex, romantic dinner, or a long and harsh day for either of you. You're obviously curious about the pictures, take this as an opportunity to learn more about her and not just an interrogation about old flings.

Answer 8

oh boy. good question. I have pics of last yrs home coming of me and this guy. I really liked him back then but we were never b/f and g/f. I still have those pics. I don't exactly want them but they are memories. I don't like that guy anymore. At all. Not even a smige. The pics are somewhere in the dark cold corners of a place that some people would call my room. If she doesn't have those pics stored away somewhere like that, you have a problem. Talk to HER about it. Tell you you don't like having reminders of her past b/f. Its like you have to compete with the past. Somthing thats not there. That's not right. TALK to HER about it.

(PS- rainmaker got it on the head)

Answer 9

Nobody likes it...it's a human survival instinct. However girls have a tendency to hold onto this kinda stuff for some reason, so it's really a question of your insecurity...with yourself, and in this relationship. Do you feel threatened? If not, then let it go. If you do, then you're probably not ready for a serious relationship.

Answer 10

I have pictures of me and my ex boyfriends... I dont have them in frames on the walls but they are in photo albums. They are just memories of past times and they dont make me feel any different about the person I am with. It is normal to feel a little jealous but remember, she is with you for a reason!

Answer 11

Depends on the extent to which see does it, i keep old pics of relationships, most of my ex's do as well, i see nothing wrong in that but if she's whipping them out every 5 minutes and staring at them all the time i wouldn't like that.