Why is he doing this? Please help......?

Question

One of my stupid friend told my crush that I like him. So now he knows that I like him, and his friends told me that he is really confused about whether I like him or not. the bad part is that he is TOTALLY ignoring me now. I saw him today at school and he saw me too, but he didn't say 'Hi!' or 'Hey!' So what's his problem??? He wasn't acting like this when his didn't find out that I like him, we use to talk and hang out a lot. But lately he's avoiding me!! How can I become friends with him again?? And what does this behavior of his shows?? Please someone help!!thanks

Answer 1

He could be ignoring you for two reasons. The first being that the news that you have more then friendly interests in him is something that he does not share so he's avoiding you to send you the signal of "not interested." The second possibility is that he may have feelings for your or hasn't really thought about it and knowing what he now knows may be making him have to rethink what he thinks of you and he's needing space to work it out. Bottom line the only way you're going to know for sure is by going up to him and asking if you can speak to him privately to clear the air. If he says he's not interested then you can resolve to be friends still or it may come out that he is interested (guys make up their minds quickly when they're forced to) an you might be able to start things rolling on possibly going on a few days. Playing the avoiding game isn't going to work if you want the "actual" answer to your question. Get gutsy and talk to him!

Answer 2

How old are you both . . . probably either in Jr High or High School (more likely Jr. High).

Basically, this created a awkward situation for you both. Before you were both friends plain and simple . . . then you throw some emotional or physical attraction to it (I know it wasn't you). A boy that age gets confused and get a little shy about future interaction. And with you drawing back too . . . instead of pursuing it now the cat is out of the bag, he is also not sure if you like him like him or just like him.

As for him avoiding you, haven't you been avoiding him too . . . hoping that he will come to you . . . it will never happen. He is not going to make the first move . . . you are going to have to. This is an equal opportunity era . . . men are no longer obligated to make the first move. If you like him, go to him and talk with him . . . even if it is about the stuff you used to talk about. Get him comfortable.

Answer 3

Ok, in my experience, I've found that if you like someone, it's better to tell them straight off because you aren't wasting time wondering/stressing about whether they like you or not.
Now that your friend has spilled the beans, and your guy is acting weird, I would approach him someplace where he's alone, and say "I know that "soandso" told you I like you, but I don't want anything to get in the way of our friendship. If you don't feel the same for me, please just tell me. I still wanna hang out with you."
This way he knows you like him, but doesn't think that you're obsessive :) Good luck! I know these things are terribly confusing.
Crystal

Answer 4

I see two answers. Either, he likes you and is too shy to ask you out. Or he isn't interested. The main thing with guys is that we get nervous and shy when we find out a girl likes us. The reason he is confused is because he didn't hear it from you. It sounds like he likes you, but can't work up the nerve to ask you out. You may need to make the first move. Some girls don't like doing that, but it will more than likey work.

Answer 5

He is probably feeling awkward around you now. He probably does not share your feelings and doesn't want you to get the wrong idea about him. I would approach him and tell him that your friend was lying and you do not like him.

Answer 6

He's either confused on how he feels about you or weirded out that you like him in that way.

It was probably a shock when he found out you liked him because he never thought you did.

Answer 7

i know it sounds hard (believe me...), but just go up to him and talk to him. just chat about school: for example, what classes/teachers do you have? what are your favorite subjects?? those are ways to start up conversations. just talk to him. perhaps he doesn't know how to feel about you liking him. if he seems like he needs space, just back off a bit and just greet him in the halls.

Answer 8

he now knows your secret, he is more uncofortable around u know, since he is "confused" he might want to ask u out but with fear of rejection, be yourself and just ask him.."whats up? why r u so weird aound me now, i am still the same (your name), but u now know my secret, so don't freak out on me"
hope it works for ya!