why do parents feel its better to give a kid a pill than teach them to deal with life?

Question

iM NOT DOUBTING ANYONES CHOICES i AM WONDERING WHY SO MANY TURN TO PILLS AS THE ONLY WAY, pills do not solve anything in the long run the problem is still there or worse when the pills are gone, and dont give jr zoloft or who knows what cause he might kill you

Answer 1

unfortunately this is an issue i have come across too many times for comfort too - retalin,as an example, seems in some cases to be as much a substitute parent, as the tv and video games. one case i recall, the parent even admitted it to me that she was too tired of dealing with the kid's special needs, so stuck her on enough pills to knock out an elephant. sad but true. i had the kid's meds knocked back by her doc by over 50% within the first couple months, and she blossomed into a fine young woman.

Answer 2

Not merely parents, but many doctors are over-medicating children these days. I'd say a lot of parents are not skilled at parenting, possibly have "issues" of their own that hinder their parenting abilities and are offended at the thought of taking helpful parenting classes.
Also, most americans are unaware or unwilling to really work at sound nutrition for the family or maybe so poor thay feel unable to do so effectively. Look at the defficiency symptoms of the various vitamins & minerals we need sometime. There are several that have surprising, & sometimes similar, psychological symptoms if you don't get an adequate amount in your diet (--but don't go overboard, either, as some can become toxic in large amounts ).
Irritability, anxiety, nervousness, crying spells, etc. are some of the symptoms.
It's really quite amazing to check out that info.! Also, some forms of nutrients are not well-absorbed, too. It's been written that 80% of americans are magnesium-deficient and that if you drink 3 to 4 sodas a day, you will become magnesium-deficent due to the phosphorous in the drink, even if you were getting enough magnesium. Well, it's also been written that magnesium is one nutrient that is as good or better than ritalin for many kids having ADHD!! Wow!! That shows a big problem, I think. Also, a certain nutrient called DMAE is a precurser to acetylcholine. Choline & inositol are components of lecithin, and about 30% of your brain is lecithin. Now, this DMAE stuff has also been found to be as effective, or more so, than ritalin in many cases of ADHD. Chromium (picolinate form) is so effective concerning blood sugar levels that it has a warning label for those with diabetes. We are, as a nation, undernourished & malnourished, too often. We often eat too much junk food with empty, useless calories & little nutritional depth. Even microgram amounts of some nutrients can make a big difference!! A well-known basketball player once had a problem with bone fractures that calcium & other bone-building nutrients didn't solve...until they gave him minute amounts of the element "boron." Boron helps to anchor calcium in the bone, and we only need a few micrograms a day of boron!! Your body needs things to function, and we don't put gas in the transmission or oil in the radiator. The body will often work right, or better, if we give it what it really needs.

Answer 3

Well first of all, we did the change of the foods and drinks. I tried to work with the schools. No matter what we did or didn't do he was in need of some help that we could not give to him. He was suffering in school and the family was being torn apart because all the attention was on him. It took some time to get him tested and put on meds, but I'm so gald we did this he is so much happier. He actually has friends that want to play with him. Life at home has gotten so much better for us all. I know what you are thinking.. I thought the same thing till I had a son who had this problem. It's so much different saying you don't know why, than you having to deal with this pain of seeing your child sad, scared and very upset all the time thinking he has some weird problem.

Answer 4

Unfortunately that's probably what they've been taught. Your generation is learning about prevention. Most dr's are taught trauma in medical school. So all they tend to give you is last resort methods. Which is probably who your parents are listening to, who wouldn't they are dr's right. The younger generation is finally learning those aren't the answers. The only reason I know all this is because my father is a chiropractor and although not all chiropractors I would recommend just like dr's some are better then others. I grew up under a preventative way of thinking instead of popping a pill everytime I get something as small as a cold.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, we live in an instant society where the quick fix is often preferred to a solution that may require more time and personal investment. Therefore, if a pill can solve the problems (or at least we believe that it will) then people may select that over educating their children as to how to deal with life and society. In order for a parent to teach a child how to deal with life and society, would require a considerable investment of time on the part of the parent/s. As a society we are driven by deadlines and time is in short supply. Additionally, image seems to be of much importance in our society today and it seems to be much more socially acceptable to "take a pill" for a problem than ask for help or admit our shortcomings as parents.

Answer 6

You could be a little more discriptive in your question, but I assume you're talking about ritalin, and such medications. It's a medical diagnosis, not one of a fed up parent to give their child medication. It has nothing to do with 'teaching them to deal with life' either. Your 'question' seems more like an opinion, and not much of one either honestly. Maybe you'll see one day when you're grown up enough to have a child of your own, or to care for a child who is unable to deal with themselves. It shouldn't be about the parents, or the teachers, or anyone else but the child. Try being a little more open. There are those out there that abuse it though, and what a injustice is that to their children, but there is a whole other side to it as well.

Answer 7

Why? OK, worst case scenario. There are a few kids that actually DO need medications, because they are a total distraction to everyone around them.

That being said, there are WAY TOO MANY kids "diagnosed" with A.D.D.

I cannot believe that so many doctors would write prescriptions, even if there are misinformed and lazy parents and teachers.

To answer your question the way you would like, I'd say that when parents and teachers can refer to the child as "ill" or "having a condition," it absolves THEM of any responsibility, effort or blame.

Yes. Waaaaay to many kids on meds these days.

What a damn shame.

Answer 8

I am a parent. However, I DO NOT agree that giving children UNNECESSARY medication instead of teaching them to DEAL WITH LIFE is a good thing AT ALL!!

Of course, I had parents WHO allowed me to be over-medicated as a child!!! And it took me YEARS to get off the medications I was on. Not only that, but YEARS LATER, doctor's have discovered COUNTLESS MEDICAL ISSUES connected with psychiatric medications!! And what the doctor will NOT TELL YOU is that you CAN become ADDICTED to the medication. ONLY IF THERE IS NO OTHER CHOICE, would I agree that psychiatric medication should be CONSIDERED!!!

Seeing a psychologist to help you talk out your problems COULD BE a very good COMPROMISE with your parents?? As well as serve to get them MORE INVOLVED in your life!!!

Answer 9

Sometimes a pill is necessary. Would you deny a parent the right to have a child tested thoroughly and to give that child medication if it's needed? You question shows a lack of knowledge on the subject.

Answer 10

one who gives you the right to question someone elses parenting?
and two - not ALL parents WANT to give their hyper kids. some parents like myself look into every other option available before using chemical help. and nowadays there are ALOT of tests and screening done before any kind of medication can be administered to a child. and then there are ongoing counseling for both parent and child to help both parent and child to learn to deal with hyperactivity. so dont go questioning everyone elses parenting until you klnow all the facts.