We've put baby locks on them so they don't slam so hard, but what is his obsession with doing this? It can get quite annoying and we have tried everything to break him from it. He is 21 mo old and the typical curious little boy. We've even let him get his finger caught once to show him that it can be an "owie". I know that sounds mean, but we've tried everything, even scold him, which I hate doing. But nothing is working. Anything else I could try? Hes the typical ornery boy like I said and has recently started throwing tantrums as well. I really don't know waht to do!
2007-01-22 11:59:06 · 10 answers · asked by Koozie 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
We have ignored him, nothing works!
2007-01-22 12:07:26 · update #1
Welcome to the "terrible twos". He sounds very normal and healthy. My son was rougher and more destructive during that time, but he has largely grown out it ... though he insists on killing my plants and is still physical. I think it's part of him figuring out his own will and feeling independent and physical.
To buffer the sound, try picking up some felt circles that are adhesive on one side. You can probably find them anywhere from Home Depot to Walmart. They're used to protect furniture. If you put one on the top and bottom corner of each cupboard door, it should help ... look for the larger thicker felt circles.
2007-01-22 12:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by M H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have about 3 options here.
First, let him do it.
Second, spank him everytime he even thinks about doing it.
Third, remove all cabinet doors.
Seriously, my point is that this is a really hard time on lots of parents. He's exploring the world around him and has honed in on slamming things. This won't last long and he'll be on to some other annoying thing.
If you do spank, then now is the time to put that to use. If not, then try time out. And correct him with a stern voice.
Example: your cooking supper and he's standing by a door slamming it repeatedly. The first time, you stop what you're doing and tell him sternly, Don't do that!
If he does it again...remove him from the kitchen.
If he comes back in then try time out or a spanking.
I hope this all helps and good luck!
2007-01-22 20:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by Elvis Luvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You son might just want to see what's in there. He sees you and you spouse get into the cupboards and he wants to be a big boy and help you guys. We have cabinet latches on all the low cabinets as well. We moved the plastic bowls into one cupboard and told him he can play with the things in there. When we are in the kitchen cooking (or when he just wants to play) we open "his cupboard" and let him play. We let him take all the things out if he wants. He also has one drawer that's "his." We keep a couple wooden spoons an old plastic spatula and a couple measuring cups and measuring spoons in there. He'll sit on the floor and try to put lids on the bowls or he'll "mix" stuff in the bowls with his spoons. If you give in to him just a little, he'll probably leave all the other doors alone. Good luck!
2007-01-22 23:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh boys you gotta love them. I would be willing to bet anything he is doing it because you give him a reaction every time and what is more fun then knowing you can do something and get mommy and daddy to look at you good or bad he is still getting what he wants. Try ignoring him eventually he will be like huh this sucks no one is paying attention. Second the whole tantrum thing when he does it get up and go in a different room, a tantrum is no fun when no one is paying attention. My son actually would throw himself down screaming, I would get up walk away he would get up and follow me in the room I moved to and throw himself down on the floor. It was actually pretty funny. Good luck
2007-01-22 21:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by lovingmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to step up to the plate and be a parent! It already sounds like he's the one ruling the house. Punish him when he slams things and do NOT let him get away with it. He NEEDS discipline NOW or he will continue to get worse and really push you around.
My oldest son once tried throwing a tantrum because he saw other kids doing it and getting what they wanted. Let me tell you what happened; I took him grocery shopping with me, as I was pushing the grocery cart down an isle he saw something he wanted, I looked at it (knowing I did not want him having it) and told him no you can not have that. He immediately threw himself on the floor and began throwing a tantrum. I just looked at him and continued on down the aisle - he was still having his little fit.
I went around the end of the aisle and still heard him making noise. I stopped and listen for changes - all of a sudden it got quiet and the next thing I knew he was standing next to me and giving me 'the evil eye'. I got down to his level and told him "do you feel better now? Do NOT ever do that again!" He stayed right next to me and never pulled that trick again because I showed him I was not about to give into him - I was the parent - not him. It was extremely difficult for me to do this (because I love kids and don't like to see them cry) but I knew, deep down, that I was not going to let this little 2 year old walk all over me.
2007-01-22 22:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ahhhh....i love it when my daughter sneaks up on me and SLAM! SLAM! SLAM! SLAM! she likes to watch me jump the first time she slams it. then the next two or three times she does it, she's waiting for me to reach for her hand so she'll stop, then goes running into the living room with me chasing her. my guess is, he does it for attention,and he likes the loud sound that he has control over. its a fun game for him. i know when my daughter is slamming her favorite cabinet door, its time to go play with her. i tried the felt pads on the corners of the doors, and it makes her slam the door even harder! she likes the loud sound that she is making. i taught her to slam the door more quietly, and she usually does after i tell her "no". she did it for about 4 months, nonstop. then she stopped after that, with just the occasional slam here and there. he'll eventually find something louder and more fun. thats what they are good at! its terrible two's! enjoy it, its really not all that bad! it can be very interesting at times! have fun!
2007-01-23 00:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it either, but I recently replaced our toilet seats with the slow-close kind (around $50) and NOT hearing the toilet close with a thud is music to my ears. Of course my son can't just let it close slowly. He just has to help it close. Oh well, not a slam!
This behavior should disappear, just don't look for it to happen any time soon!
2007-01-22 22:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by housebug23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The noise intrigues him, and the more you tell him not to slam the cabinet doors, the more he insists in doing it...it's a game for him.
2007-01-22 20:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by markos m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with him being the age that he is, he just loves to make noise and see just how loud it will be. there is really nothing yo can do to break this habit he will soon tire of it and move on to something else.... until then try to keep your sanity !!!!
good luck !!!!
2007-01-22 21:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by babyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'LL BET HE LIKES HAVING CONTROL OVER THE SOUNDS THE DOORS MAKE WHEN SHUTTING.
2007-01-22 20:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋