i really care about him and i know he's stressed almost all the time but wat can i do 2 help him when he gets one. idk wat 2 do besides say i love u and try 2 make small conversations with him. is there anyway that i can help him?
2007-01-22 11:58:19 · 17 answers · asked by emilytobey@sbcglobal.net 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
wow! almost everybody on here has great answers. i really appreciate it. thank u!here's another detail about my bf's problem. he has medication and he takes it everyday but the problem is it doesn't help him all the time. i tell him 2 get some new medication but he doesn't want 2 so i don't tell him anything else about his medication.
We're high school seniors n this week is finals n he's been absent since thursday cuz of his panic attacks. i just feel so bad 4 him and i wish i could help him. The most sweetest thing that i have done 4 him lately was i wrote him a poem revealing my feelings 4 him. i hope that could help him calm down a little.
2007-01-22 12:32:10 · update #1
panic attacks vary person to person. be supportive and close by this is one of the things that only your bf can fix himself. there is a reason for his panic attacks whether he realizes it or not. sometimes they are in your subconscious and you never really know why you have them others are simply stressed induced. help him try to relax and breathe slow deep breaths when he has one coming on and stand by him. let him know you care and that you will help him anyway needed. but honestly moral support is all that can be given and that's worth a million to someone with that disorder. he will need a center or a sounding board, by being there you could become that center and its an ugly job. but in the end its the best thing in the world to the ones you love.
2007-01-22 12:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Erica B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a boyfriend you suffers from Panic and Anxiety. The only thing that you can really do is be there for him. Its important to realize that technically its something he battles alone. Its very hard for him, im sure; its not a condition anybody wants. So the only thing you can do is be supportive, if you two are in a situation where he feels one coming on, leave. Its doesn't matter if its a wedding or a movie or anything, leave. If anybody asks, what was wrong say he wasn't feeling well. Really, that's all you can do. He doesn't love you any less because these things happen. Just keep him away from situations, and try not to talk about it with hm, if it upsets him. A lot of people don't like to talk about it. I don't know. That's about it. I'm sorry, I know you want to help him, but that's really all you can do. I wish you luck. Hope it helped. Bye.
2007-01-22 12:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with a girl who had panic attacks related to a car wreck she was in a few years prior. She would have panic attacks if anyone else was driving, true story, I witnessed a couple. we took baby steps to ease her into the idea of me driving, and I took her for a leisurely drive or two, and we were making progress, then she dumped me and ran off with some other guy who also doesn't like the fact that she has to be the driver all the time. So I recommend baby steps; panic attacks are triggerred by subconscious fight-or-flight responses that can be overcome with time and practice, but the most important factor is trust.
2007-01-22 12:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by evilclownspiders 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a person is having or beginning a panic attack, make sure that they are seated upright and have both feet on the ground. I don't know why, but it does make a difference. I know that this sounds nuts, but it seriously works. Get him to keep his head still but move his eyes between 3-4 places in the room in rapid movement. There is something about your brain not being able to process and maintain the panic while it is also trying to interpret the input of rapidly moving your eyes around. It seriously works. I do it if I begin to have a panic attack while I am driving. (onviously I pull over first. lol)
2007-01-22 15:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by wolfpackangel99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be eating a good diet. Watch the sugar intake - very bad for panic attacks.
When I have a cappacino I have anxiety attacks all day.
Also stay away from MSG.
Excerise is very good to release the feel good hormones!
People don't realize how bad all these chemicals and preservatives in our food affects our nervous system and our brain. This generation has more mental problems then ever before. Look at all the kids with ADD and depression etc. Fast foods, boxed foods is all they eat!
Go back to eating things more naturally. No sugar, white flour, white rice, msg.
My husband and I both suffer with them. When we watch what we eat and take a good vitamin supplement we do much better.
2007-01-22 12:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by Dee Hat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, I just laugh about my past 3 years of panic now. I was not able to go anywhere without carrying xanax. Fear of having another attack was the most important subject of my days.When i first found joe barry's web site i started to cry because of my happiness.
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2016-05-17 02:26:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem ... but reversed. I'M the one with panic attacks and suicidal wishes whereas my boyfriend is the one to help me. We're seniors in highschool.
He doesn't know what to do. As I break down and beg him not to love some one as horrible as me. He tells me he loves me, but since I'm having a panic attack that sometimes makes it worse. Because at those times I don't think I deserve his love.
Later after the panic attack is over I really appreciate him telling he loves me. It also helps when he tries to get me to imagine him being there beside me, holding me, whispering in my ear everything will be alright, to remember the sweetness of our first kiss.
He gave me a blanket for my birthday. Told me to wrap it around me when I'm sad and pretend it's his arms. He gave me a teddy bear to have to talk/cry to late at night. I have a photo album of pics of us he tells me to look through.
He tells me to go lie on my floor and breathe in and out into a paper bag to stop the hyperventilating. He let's me rant and cry until it's all out of my system. He assures me that no matter how much I cry he will still love me, because he can see the true me. The one that's hiding deep inside when the panic attacks hit (which is pretty much nightly). He stays up late to make sure I'm ok and that I won't harm myself. He makes me go walk around to clear my head.
If he is around when they hit he wraps me in a bear hug and just holds me and tells me every thing will be ok. That I do have a reason for living. That he is my reason for living.
He sends me ecards lol. He's written me notes and valentines cards and little trinkets and gifts. I know he loves me, but when you're having a panic attack you need reassured.
Nothing makes sense then. The black comes and gets you and sucks you into it. It squeezes at you head and at your heart. You feel like you're going to die. I just cry until I can't anymore. And throw things.
Just tell him sweet things and do sweet things. Give him something that reminds him of you even if you can't be there. Tell him to maybe go breathe and that should help if he's hyperventilating.
It might be different with a guy. But that's what I need to make it through an attack.
Sounds like you're doing a great job. Just reassure him and be understanding (even if you can't). He might reject it at first. But later he will appreciate knowing that someone IS there for him even at his worst. As long as you're there for him that's all you can do.
Keep helping him <3 Best Wishes for the both of you.
(feel free to message me if it ever gets to be too stressful and you need an ear... feel free to rant. I love long emails)
2007-01-22 15:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by Allison 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost get him to a doctor, I get them allot and i find the best thing to do is get my mind busy doing something else, have him try cleaning the house or like just one room, it works for me and I'm here to tell you you can eat off my bathroom floor.
2007-01-22 12:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by sckenpo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out the reason from him first before u solve 4 him.is it emotional stress or cos of work tension from his office?go with him 4 a wk holiday to somewhere he likes best,maybe he can slowly back to normal,otherwise consult a psychiatrist asap.
best wishes.
2007-01-22 12:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just by being there for him and try and keep him away from any explosive people or places try and keep everything calm and that is all you can do and if he has meds make sure he takes them,
2007-01-22 12:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋