I love my boyfriend to death we've been together for a while and he was my 1st. but now im in a affair I cant get out of I just dont know what to do becase i really dont want to hurt my boyfriend who i want to marry but i cant help but think theres more to experience what should I do ?
2007-01-22 11:57:54 · 12 answers · asked by tgurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to end your affair with this other guy and tell your boyfriend. i know you might be scared your boyfriend will leave you if you tell him, but you have to. relationships are all about trust and you can't keep something like that from him. it could kill your relationship later. talk to your boyfriend about it, if he leaves, he leaves. but you have to take responsibility for your actions. if you honestly love your boyfriend and this other guy means nothing to you, do not continue this affair. if your love is strong enough, maybe you two can work through this. just be strong.
hope you two can work things out.
2007-01-22 12:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jenniferrr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry a man you have cheated on. Do not get married if you are wondering what else is out there. Trust me, I'm coming from experience. You think loosing him now will hurt, try getting a divorce. My suggestion, tell the other guy you are sorry but you made a mistake and want to make it work with your boyfriend. Then, once it's over, sit your boyfriend down and tell him that you are sorry but you cheated. At that point it's up to him how he wants to handle it. But if you loose him, it's probably for the best. There is a lot to experience out there and you aren't truly ready to get married until you know that and have done everything you wanted to do. Don't settle down until you are totally ok with what you are giving up. Cause cheating in a marriage, much bigger deal and divorce hurts 100% more than any normal break up. Just my two cents.
2007-01-22 12:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by blhenne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he is just your boyfriend then you haven't cheated. You only cheat once the both of you have comitted to each other. Now if you only had sex with him once, then its not an afair. Just a fling. Not saying its right or wrong. Its just the way it is. So realy all you should be doing is telling the other person that it was just a fling and that you don't want any sort of commitment. I supose it all depends what sort of vibes you gave him during the act. It would be a good idea if you could go through in your mind the lead up to it and during sex and try your hardest to remember if you may have inavertantly lead him on. You'll have to take it from there hone as only you know what hapened and you dont want to cause any pain to the other guy.
Laurie
2007-01-22 12:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Loza W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love your boyfriend, end whatever you have going on behind the scenes, and tell him. Trust me on this, its better for him to hear it from you rather than someone else. All things happen for a reason. You need to evaluate how you really feel about him. If you were SURE everything was perfect, why did you need to get with another guy? Something had to be missing. I married the first person I was ever with, and I've never considered anything or anyone else. I can't stress though how important it is that you tell him. If you love each other enough, you can worth through it.
2007-01-22 12:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by sunangel2888 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are at a cross road right now that u need to think through very carefully. u either make the decision to devote ur life with a guy, get married, start a family with the knowledge that this is ur way of life and be ok with it. or let the man u are with go and not get married to see what there is in life that u feel u are missing, what is most important to u? Either way u cant regret the decision u made, thats why i say think it through carefully. do u love this guy enough to forget what things in life u are missing such as other men. or do u want to drop a man who may be the man of ur dreams to serch for something u dont even know what ur looking for. The sign of cheating to me makes me think u dont love ur man the way u say u do. or my doing what u did it made u realize u actually do love him and dont ever want to do anything that that again to lose him. no one can make this choice for u. good luck and God Bless
2007-01-22 12:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by goober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the serious side, NEVER TELL! Even if you are caught in the act deny, deny. Nothin good can come from your guilty plea. Now for the less serious. As to how to end the affair tell the other guy the only way you can continue to see him is if he agrees to dress in drag and take you to a biker bar.
2007-01-22 12:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you shouldnt have cheated then. jeez. you obviously dont love him that much. do him a favor and leave. youre obviously too immature to handle a deep relationship. leave him and go "experience" what youre missing out on and let him have a girl who wont go running around with other guys.
2007-01-22 12:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you sure are confused LMAO you say u want 2 marry but u cheated. StupidAss seriously you dont like ur BF u need to tell everybody the truth and move on dont go around hurting geeees wtf
2007-01-22 12:01:41 · answer #8 · answered by Slavemaker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just end it...boy u cheatin a** girls....If your not going to do it again.....chalk it up as a learning expierience...dont ruin everything because of it...Let your heart guide you ...You and only you can figure it out....
2007-01-22 12:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by eldiablo0731 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth becuse karma will come back and bite you in the ***
2007-01-22 12:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by lazy!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋