my parents were abusive emotionally and physcally, my dad has died, but my mum continues to manipulate me with inheritance, i am living away from her and haven't visited her for over 8 months, she try to knock on my door and calling my home every week, what is the best revenge to an abusive parent like her? i really hate her with all my heart, she has caused nothing but grief in my llife!
2007-01-22 11:55:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just forget her and don't even worry about the inheritance. If you care about the inheritance she will always have that over you. The best revenge is to simply send her the message that you truly don't care, but that has to be authentic.
2007-01-22 12:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Success is the best "revenge". Be the best person that you can be. You have no idea what happened to her that made her such a hateful, nasty person to be around. And as you said forgiving her won't work. Then you didn't forgive. Because forgiveness isn't about the other person it's about you. When you have dealt with the things that have happened to you and refuse to let it rule your life, then you will forgive her. It will just happen like the sun rising in the morning. If you continue to let it run your life like it is right now, then you are living in the past. Which means you are missing out on today. What a bummer! Today is really all we have. So how many todays do you want to give away to yesterday? Right now your mom has more say over your life than you do.
2016-03-28 21:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont like the word revenge ..it will eat you up inside. But in this case, perhaps the best revenge is to ignore her. Move again, if its possible & take every care to make sure she doesnt know where you have moved to. If she wants to manipulate you & still have some sort of hold over you take away her ability to do that. Having this feeling of revenge on her is still letting her into your life & controlling it in some way.
2007-01-22 12:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lee K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then next time she calls tell her that she is nothing to you and you never want to ever see her or talk to her ever again because of the childhood she gave and she isnt going to do it anymore then hang up. Thats the one thing that would really hurt a mother to hear.
Or either forgive her and tell her to stop trying to manipulate you.
2007-01-22 12:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry ....... my dad was also abusive.... he is gone as well..... Your mother needs help,..... and for you. Try to find peace in your heart somehow... Hate is a horrible thing to carry around. I am not saying that you need to make amends, but at least get rid of the pain you feel.
Something in your mothers past has made her this way. She needs to know that the dirty money isn't worth it and that you can make your own money. Money is evil.
2007-01-22 13:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by sushihen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just send her a note and tell her how you feel. No cussing or being abusive.
And then just say: Right now, I cannot feel close to you because of all the things that have happened between us. Maybe someday, I will want to - but not for a while. Please leave me alone until then.
2007-01-22 15:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by John Hightower 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do anything violent. Have you ever thought about getting some counseling? If you hold on to all that anger you will just rob yourself of peace and it will have a bad effect on your body. Research has shown that when we hold on to anger we can get sick and have other health problems. For now try to distance yourself away from her and get some help. Have you prayed to God about your problems? This can be a great encouragement.
2007-01-22 12:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jason W 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
let your mom suffer alone don't call don't look at her she knows what she did and there is or should be no excuses and if you are still young she could still go to jail or parenting classes and for goodness sake don't drag your kids in it! she could be just as abusive with your children, and if she never says she is sorry then you can never forgive her, cause til you forgive her it will torment you for life.
2007-01-22 12:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by mommaknows 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is a double edged sword when you hurt the other party you wind up cutting yourself. Just divorce yourself from her (cut her off). No money she hangs over your head is worth it. Trust me I understand.
2007-01-22 12:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ron P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
revenge isnt the answer... if you need to take it out on something, then go to a therapist, and also, tell her that you dont want anything to do with her, and if she becomes a real problem, you can let the law take it from there.
2007-01-22 12:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋