Ok, so.... I go to highschool. and... I HATE to be seen with anyone who isnt pretty.. or have money.. its so bad I know.... But I cant help it... If im seen in a skank cra.. then I seriously... freak out... and am humiliated.... the same with people.. I dont like going places with my not so pretty friends...... I know its horrible.. what can I do to get over it??
AND.. Dont be mean.. im acknowladging that I have a prob..
2007-01-22 11:40:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Shallowness is only part of your problem - your spelling is atrocious also ... You know you have this problem so make a conscious effort to overcome it by going out with the people you class as not pretty. Grow out of it or you will find all your friends of substance abandoning you.
You just really need to grow up and know that true beauty comes from within.
The following tirade is a response from this person placed on a totally unrelated question of mine that I think indicates exactly what type of shallow, lowlife, skanky person she really is -
"Response to my shallow question... that wasnt very nice...
"beauty comes from within".. thats what ugly people say...
Do you want more ATROCIOUS grammer.. fcuk you.... ugly **** face
I feel better... thankyou for allowing me to say that.. :) "
The proof is in the writing ...
2007-01-22 11:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by zappafan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Carl Jung once said, "Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." With that being said, I'm pretty sure - speaking from the perspective of a once-adolescent - that you're highly critical of yourself and live up to some expectations set up either by yourself due to some traumatic social experience, or by your parents. I am answering this only because I've been there and I know what it's like to be shallow. But after some self-awareness that came with experiencing some pretty mind-blowing stuff, I got a new perspective and realized that it was my self-esteem and lack of personal perception that made me shallow. I knew that I was uncomfortable with how I looked and felt, and knew that a lot of it came from expectations from my family. I'm not saying that your parents or family is to blame, but I'm sure there are some outside factors that you must confront and address before you understand how you came to be. Also keep in mind that material things and beauty are only physical - meaning that they can be taken away just as quickly as they were given. Hope this helps. Good luck with high school, too, I know it's a rough place to find one's self.
2007-01-22 19:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
try mixing with the un pretty people for a while and see if you think they are generally nicer and or brighter people. Remember this... every single human being has a repulsive body no matter what they look like on the outside. If what was in our holes was on the outside instead of the inside then the buzzards and the jackels , flies etc would have parties.
2007-01-22 19:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by kicking_back 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just a little word of advice,I think you should spend some more time with your not so pretty friends and may be your mine will change about going out with your not so pretty friends.Pretty people are usually popular people an they won't ba around for long so I think you should cheat your not so pretty friends the same.
2007-01-22 19:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Weedhead 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop caring what people think. Get to know some not-so-good looking person and show them off like you don't care. you're the leader of what you do. You're the boss of yourself.
Maybe this problem is probably because you look at people differently when they are with someone who isn't pretty. And subcontiously, when you are with someone that isn't pretty, you think that others look at you differently too, just the way you look at them...
Change your view of the world, and you'll change yourself.
Theres so much to life, you have no idea.
2007-01-22 19:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Ash and june 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heres just a thought but maybe if you tried to put yourself in other peoples shoes, Maybe just stop preening and go to school in an outfit that isn't very flattering, just so that you look plain for a day. Just so you can feel what its like to be plain for a day. this is just a thought I dont know if it would help
2007-01-22 19:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by iwll m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hii i think its learning about you the ways you think care see the world and people thers good and bad, you can work on how you can change think feel about others but you need to be open with you own feelings and ask do i reallly wanna be this way forever then do a bit of soul searching in time in your own heart see what you know that you need to change remmbeing that things can will get better if you bleave with time so work with your feelings to make your own life better.
2007-01-22 19:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already mentioned things that you thought were very shallow. Why would you need anyone to tell you anything different?
You already expressed you wish to be this way. Figure it out already and grow up a little.
2007-01-22 19:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just try to not think that you are all that. bc you are not. that will help. and be more humble. if this doesnt help, i encourage you to speak to a counsilor and get some help, because everyone is a human being and be more grately of what you have... beauty CAN be taken away from you (car accident, face is ruined) and you could lose your money somehow... so be grately.
2007-01-22 19:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dam, u really stuck up
i guess its hard to change
just put a lot of work into it
say to yourself, you don't wanna do this anymore
2007-01-22 19:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by SUPERMAN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋