I need some advice?

Question

im going through a hard time with my spiritual life...... I was going so good i was getting close to God, learning his word, ect....it was an amazing communication, but i started talking to this girl and she like distracted me from god and know i dont feel the same way as i used to be i dont feel his presence as i just too and im a lil sad, and confused on what to do. I feel empty and i just need some advice because im still talkin to this girl, but i want to be with God so if u have any good advice help me out cuz i need it.....

im going through a hard time with my spiritual life...... I was going so good i was getting close to God, learning his word, ect....it was an amazing communication, but i started talking to this girl and she like distracted me from god, an doing things im not suppose to do and know i dont feel the same way as i used to be i dont feel his presence as i just too and im a lil sad, and confused on what to do. I feel empty and i just need some advice because im still talkin to this girl, but i want to be with God so if u have any good advice help me out cuz i need it.....

Answer 1

Choose God, he will give you more than she can... Can she give you eternal life. Avoid temptation.

Matthew 5:29
If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell

Matthew 5:30
And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell

Get rid of her, it is better to be without her than to go to hell! If God would tell you to remove your own eye or hand, before going to hell...Hell must not be a fun place to be with out God! Choose God! This is a test, by God to see what you will do, if you will follow God or not!

Answer 2

You can't have a relationship with both at the same time?

Is there something about her that you think the almighty would object to? If so then perhaps then the emptiness you are feeling is from your conscious effort to put a less than quality relationship motivated by lust above your morals and religion.

If she is just fine then perhaps you have an emotional need that was becoming to be met by your relationship with god. Then this cute girl comes along and starts to be the substitute for that need, however at some point you stopped and noticed it was replacing your newfound religious devotion and that bothers you.

Thats about the best I can do with what you provided. Good luck.

Answer 3

Now this is me. I have had boyfriends that believed in God but not in the same way that I do. I find myself revolving my life around them as I my relationship grew and less on God and my relationship with the Lord began to drift away also. It took a few boyfriends like that to show me how easily we can substitute God with other things, including people and emotions. Now that I am older, I have realized that no other person is greater to me than God. If the person does not draw me closer to God, then that person is not someone who I can be with. We have to be aware that the devil can use people to draw us away from God, even those people we may love. Even people in our families.
With every new boyfriend I had, it was difficult to make that choice between Him and God, but looking back now I can see how none of them would have been a benefit to me, and am so glad that I never married them. What a dreadful mistake I would have made.

Answer 4

This is precisely why Paul said this:

"I want you to be free from concerns. An unmarried man is concerned about the affairs of the Lord, that is, about how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world, that is, about how he can please his wife, and so his attention is divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the affairs of the Lord, so that she may be holy in body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world, that is, about how she can please her husband." (I Corinthians 7:32-34)

Although you are "talking" to this girl now, the whole idea ultimately is to find a spouse. Back in Paul's day, marriages were arranged for the most part, and "dating" was a foreign concept.

You have become distracted by this girl, and lost your zeal for God. This was bound to happen. You can get it back, but you must learn to balance your life with God along with the girl. She should not occupy your thought-life, however. If she does, she becomes your "idol."

I recommend prayer, perhaps fasting, and definitely time in the Word. Ask the Lord to help you in this. (That is, if you really want the answer.) But, be prepared...He may remove her from your life if He knows you can't handle the distraction.

Answer 5

There really isn't a lot here for you to get help. Is the girl not religious? Is that why she is distracting you? Are you in love with her and that's why you still talk to her or is she just alluring?

It sounds like the girl means something to you deeply, otherwise your faith would not be so shaken. Talk to her about these feelings, maybe you can work something out.

Best of luck to ya.

Answer 6

Relationships like that can only become bad when you focus more on the (girl in your case) than God.

In fact, anything that you focus on more than God is an idol.

Sometimes, I admit, Y!A becomes an idol for me. I'm glad you ask sincerely.

If you believe that God wants you to be with her then by all means do it. But by the description you gave here it sounds like you need to drop her and get your relationship with God going again.

God has a plan for you, and a purpose! Your future wife will come to you when you least expect it, when you are following God, focusing on him.

Again, if you believe that God is leading you towards this girl, do it. Just remember that God is the top priority.

Fulfillment is found in Jesus alone, no girl can bring you true fulfillment.

There is a God-shaped hole in your heart, and you know what can fill it.

"Seek first the Kingdom of Heaven and all else shall be added"

If you focus on God, he'll take care of you. Have faith, and don't worry about tommorow. Praise God for today!

Good luck, and God bless.

Answer 7

Although your affections for God may have changed, His affections for you have not. Don't forget that. No need to be sad. We are human and have feelings. God is love.
Just talk to Him in prayer He's always there. Get with another brother in Christ around your age and share your experience; he may have advice on how he dealt with the same situation.
The Word says it's not good for man to be alone . But is also says, "Thou shall have no other gods before me."
(living or other wise) You see what I'm saying? God bless you.

Answer 8

Some advice from a girl.

As Gods word states "And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner."

I ask you, who caused the fall, woman because she was deceived or man because he let Eve lead him away from what God wanted?

Be assured, that God knows we are human (he made us). He understands that we are imperfect (because we did not obey). He gave us free will. That is why he also gave us His Son. We will fall short, we will make mistakes, and we can be forgiven. Praise God for that.

PLEASE do not listen to that guy that wants you to dump God. He too will meet God one day, even if he doesn't believe. It is a promise.

I pray that God will bless your efforts and give you peace.

Answer 9

people are made up of emotional energy
first things first, realize that it is your "choice" to spend more time "communicating" with your new girlfriend, then communicating with god. There should be no blame here; you just need to decide where you want to spend the bulk of your time. When we find someone that really interests us, it takes up a great deal of our time, thinking about the person, even if we are not with them, it is quite a distraction. I think there are several choices here......you could ask your new gal if she would consider going to church with you on sundays or some other service...(but do not pressure her, or constantly drone on about god, no offense), you could put god on the back burner for a while, you could put someone that you were lucky enough to find, on the back burner, and possibly end up loosing her. you could also realize that people need people to believe in, as well as deities (god(s))...maybe she is a gift from your god.......would your god want you to be unhappy........just a thought.......ultimately it's up to you.........

Answer 10

I know how you feel, there is times when I am alone not dating, I feel closer to God. I guess it's basically focusing more on God with out the distractions, your able to spend more time with him.
Just try an find alone time with God, and put all your effort in him.

Answer 11

I think that since you're sad, it proves that you know you need God more than you need this girl. My suggestion is to pray about it first, get the communication back up w/ God...and you know He is definetely worth it! Then talk to the girl. Tell her about your relationship w/ God, by her reaction you'll be able to tell a lot of things.

If you feel this girl is going to keep pulling you away from God, then I strongly suggest you back away for a while to get your priorities straight. God is more important than this girl. If this girl is not into God, then talk to her about God, show her what an amazing God He is. If she rejects, you know it wasn't meant to be.

I hope this helps...if you don't understand it, say it and I'll see if I can try to explain better.

God bless you.