Why is my mom always sick and can't get it together?

Question

My mom has been sick my whole life (I'm 25). She is always sick - always some new illness - she's on a multitude of prescriptions (20-30) on disability and cries and babbles for hours every time I talk to her. She has no concept of reality...We've tried everything, but she obviously has a mental disorder. She can't hold a steady job, friends, or a place to live. She is always the victim in every situation and everyone is out to get her. It's so much worse than I can even explain here, I just want to know if anyone else has a parent with similar issues. She also talks for ever without listening and brings up things that are irrelevant all the time...now she's checking herself into the hospital (again) where they all know her. What kind of creepy doctor continually allows someone to come in and get that many prescriptions - what the **** I need answers. Thanks...

Answer 1

The answer of why is she sick- can't be answered. Perhaps it's biological, perhaps your mother has never learned to cope with life. Some of us are more fragile than others. I have a good friend who's mother had pretty serious issues with schizophrenia. Her mother would baracade herself in the family's garage for weeks at a time. It hurt my friend immensily and she felt rejected. She felt torn when her father decided to see other women while remaining married.

So while I haven't been in your position myself, I can see how it hurts you. It sounds like you are stronger than your mom. Perhaps you might find someone to talk to so that you can cope better, too.

Answer 2

I am so sorry you are going through this. I can only imagine what you are going through.

I do have some suggestions-

1. Find a therapist for yourself. You can only help yourself. Your mom needs to get into counseling and maybe get off some of the meds she's taking.

2. Look for a support group- your therapist can recommend some. There is power in numbers and support. I know you are not alone- but it sure feels like it.

3. Your therapist will give your some ideas about what to say to your mom when she goes on and on about her troubles. Stick to it. She is responsible for her choices and her life.

I have a relative who blames everyone for his troubles, too. It's always someone else's fault. There are other problems too- like jealousy of other siblings and a dependency on alcohol.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

Unload your burden with a counselor. Take care of yourself and be responsible for yourself.

Answer 3

It is always difficult to try and understand another person's situation, but it sounds rather like what you (and your Mom) need is another doctor. Too often, mental imbalance has a physical dimension, and it remains undiagnozed. I know someone who is fine as long as she gets lithium. Without it she sees people who aren't there. World of difference.

Paranoia can also have physical causes - it is certainly worth exploring. Sounds as though her "care-govers" have stopped caring, and actively pursuing new remedies. Time for a change.

One final note - in all of this, be sure and take care of yourself. Too often, families get worn down, worn out and start to suffer themselves. Don't get locked into your mother's illness. Like they say on the airlines, Put on your own oxygen mask, and THEN you can help the person next to you.

Answer 4

My mom acts like that too, but she won't go to the doctor.

My mom is most likely depressed. I take anti-depression medicine because I got sick and it couldn't be explained. I never felt good and it was always something new. Your mom may also just be addicted to medicine, but I don't understand the doctor. They are suppose to discontinue giving a patient medicine once they start acting that way.

But she does sound depressed and socially disordered. Take her to a mental health doctor or talk to one. A family one may be best.

Answer 5

you're able to desire to talk on your mom. if she doesnt have self assurance you or doesnt do something approximately it or if she does tell the doorstep dad and he will become meaner then get a recorder to instruct his habit yet cover it so he cant discover it yet record his habit so which you have information. you ought to additionally chat on your organic and organic dad. Now i'll tell you this my brother married a woman who have been married till now and her 1st husband grow to be a below the impact of alcohol so she left him... then she marries my brother and my brother cared for the babies... monetarily regularly and whilst he tried to splendid the boy his mom does no longer enable that and is that this baby a large number... his organic and organic father informed him he didnt could desire to take heed to my brother and yet this organic and organic father wouldnt permit this son smoke pot interior the living house however the lads mom did so he lives with my brother and his spouse...this boy mandatory training and correction... no less than from his mom yet she merely permit him do what ever he needed... that's carefully incorrect. Now there are sturdy step dads and there are rotten ones yet i truly think of the mum and dad... the bio mom and the step dad could desire to agree on floor rules as could desire to bio dads and mothers... babies are the duty of their mom and dad so mom and dad could desire to get it jointly first.

Answer 6

wow, this is really serious. i don't know anyone who has similar issues but maybe you should ask her doctor whats going on. sorry, i don't think i really helped.

Answer 7

this sounds exactly like my mom, she is not all there sometimes i think, and its hard for me and my sister to visit with her, because she tells us all sorts of lies, but she belives what she is saying is true