Does the nice guy loose for a reason? People complain about how the nice guy always looses, but from what I've seen, the "nice" guy also has the lowest self esteem, the least confidence, the least successful, and the least idea of how to talk to women. (and are- from what I've seen- also overweight and strange looking. I've never met a good looking, successful guy who described himself as "nice") Is it because the nice guys just happen to be the least attractive (not because they're nice, but for other reasons), or is it because people only describe themselves as 'the nice guy' when they have nothing else going for them?
2007-01-22 11:36:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not saying that a guy who just happens to be nice is going to fall into that category. I'm talking about guys who describe themselves as a 'nice guy"
2007-01-22 11:44:18 · update #1
Pish. I've talked to plenty- most of the guys i've become friends with who desribed themselves as the 'nice guy' also ruined the frienship by not taking no for an answer.
2007-01-22 11:46:06 · update #2
I think a guy who describes himself as a nice guy is just that a nice guy. It may be that your experience the nice guy has also not had a hell of a lot going for him other than being nice, but there are a lot of great guys out there who are not just attractive and successful but also know how to treat a woman. The bad guys are usually just more in your face and out there. I do think that sometimes a nice guy just doesn't put in the same amount of effort because he gets discouraged seeing the girls and women go for losers again and again. But I can say that I got a nice guy and he is attractive, sexy, and sucessful. I did however date a lot of bad boys before I got my mind straight.
2007-01-22 11:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well first off glad you brought this up. Second you make some interesting points. Third some of what you say is rediculous.
Ok first off it depends on how much they say they are the nice guy. If they just toot their own horn all the time about being the nice guy then they are a bit conceited. Bragging about being nice is also a character trait of a guy who just is looking to hook up.
Secondly, the guys who claim they are nice may have self-esteem and confidence issues because of the fact they feel that they are nice but not getting a "fair shake" in the relationship department. I have found that many girls fall for hot, assholes because of looks, even though they claim "looks aren't important and that they are looking for a nice guy". Fact is for most girls, and probably a lot of guys, words are a front. They aren't actually saying what they truly want or go for.
Another thing, overweight and strange-looking? Ok define strange. Sounds like you are stereotyping overweight guys as ugly which is not right.
Nice guys are out there, and they aren't all overweight or "strange looking". Fact is some people are so self conceited and have an easy time attracting people that they look at those who don't attract as many as weird or outsiders.
AS for the guy who said that nice guys are usually emos. Seriously, get away from the TV for a couple minutes. Bad boys do get a lot of girls. Nice guys get girls too. Consensus being that girls go for bad guys, and then complain there are no good guys out there. Most of these instances are because they go for looks first, personality second. Why do you think so many people say, I want to ask out this hot guy, not I want to ask out this great personality nice attractive guy.
People base decisions on hormones 1st, Personality second.
2007-01-22 12:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by CJ B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great point! The nice guy generally is code for "pushover" in a relationship. Its too bad that nice and wuss equivocate, but that is life! Seriously though, guys that are ugly or strange looking generally seem to think that they must settle with whatever they can get for women, i.e., the first one that comes along. Therefore, they do things like refusing to argue or just agreeing with whatever it is the woman wants. Trust me, I know. I'm both ugly and strange looking. And it wasn't until I got some confidence (through exercise and eating right) and a sense of humor did I then change my tactics for dating. I wasn't trying to latch a woman, I was instead trying to find my best fit. That is a significant difference in outlooks. I am still nice, but that doesn't mean I don't argue or stand up for myself.
I think this is the description given to those that have flatlined in all aspects of their life. Sad, but true. Grow a pair, respect women, and stand up for what you believe in! Not much else too it to break the "nice" mold!
2007-01-22 11:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like enjoying video games of direction cuz i'm a guy. if u are the outgoing style which u sound like u are then datable for confident. being humorous can assist cuz that's annoying for me to be humorous except somebody else cracks a shaggy dog tale then i can style of get on a roll with it.
2016-11-01 00:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by quinteros 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the people want to be thought of as nice and nice men, who are probably a bit shy or like you said have low self esteem, can't stand cocky dudes who pull alot of tail.
2007-01-22 11:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the rub. The "nice guys" who compalin about women only going for the "bad boys" seem to conviently forget that the attractive guys who are also "nice guys" have no problem getting dates. It's just them. Then they judge you for passing up the nice guy leftovers, usually pathetic puppydog emos.
2007-01-22 11:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the nice guy never wins. the truely nice guy i mean. like some guys say "Im just a nice guy" but then once you start up with them theyre like a don juan. some people use the nice guy label to get girls, some people because they suck at everything else and want pity.
jen d
2007-01-22 11:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the reason they are 'less dateable' is because of girls who aren't willing to talk to them.... they don't know how to talk to women because women don't talk to them. You have to give people a chance or you'll never really know who they are. For all you know- they are just nervous when they talk to you. Or maybe you just don't know how to talk to real men. Men who aren't going to leave you because they found something better.... but from the looks of things... you'd probably decide you left them for something better- there is a difference between being full of it and having self esteem.
2007-01-22 11:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by megcinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a cold question..... It's the whole package, not just looks, and just maybe they need some wild woman to perk them up some.
2007-01-22 11:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋