I know it has something to do with my self-esteem. after winter break i used to joke around with my bf saying that i was going to become shy around him like i was in the start of school. apparently, it was something not to jke around with, because i am more quiet and well so he says distant. I jusy started feeling different during witer break my self-esteem went rock- bottom because i recalled something an ex of mine said and did that brought my self-esteem down long ago. I thought about it and now, I see myself as well ugly and all those horrible things. I came back and i just won't seem to get all cuddly with my bf like i used to and i'm not always laughing like i used to. i used to be all happy when i was with him, now it's different. it's me, but i don't know how to fix it. i know i might be overreacting but everytime i try to eat i can't becoming paranoid that i might get fat. Now i even see my bf as enemy because i think neg of commens he make.i dont like how can i change?
2007-01-22 11:27:22 · 10 answers · asked by trapped 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It might suprise some people, but abuse (mental or otherwise) can manifest as post traumatic stress disorder. It's real, and can be devastating if not dealt with. It can create difficulty in establishing relationships, it can destroy self esteem, and it can make life unendurable.
See a therapist, or talk to a close friend. But work through it. It can be overcome, but generally not all by yourself.
Good luck. And let your new boyfriend know what you're going through, he may be willing to help you overcome this.
2007-01-22 11:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by Theresa A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notice you said EX bf. You new bf sounds like a great guy! Hes letting you know what bothers him rather than calling names. Keep in mind that even though you are going through a little depression, (a lot of people get the blues during the holidays) you can't let your past control your present. Write down all the feelings your EX makes you feel, then burn them or tear them up, It's theraputic for me. Good Luck.
2007-01-22 19:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by Kathryn R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have two factors working against you at the same time. So let me start by saying you should really seek therapy.
First, it sounds like depression to me. It may have just been memories that brought this all about, but now it is consuming you and interferring with your relations. That is a sign of depression.
Second, it sounds like you may even be developing anorexia. Do not let this get out of control. Seek therapy immediately before this gets in to you so far there is no way out.
It also sounds like you may have been sexually assulted at some point in your life. I don't know this to be the case for sure as I don't know you at all. This is just classic behavior of a victim of sexual assault. I hope I'm wrong.
Let your boyfriend know that this doesn't have as much to do with him as it does have to do with you and that you are going to seek help for it. If he really loves you, he will stick it out. If he doesn't wait for you, than he isn't meant for you.
Either way, you need to focus on you right now. Please get some help.
Good Luck!
2007-01-22 19:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, it's part of growing up. you start reflecting on the past. self esteem goes up and down. that's why you need to find someone to go through it all, and life in general.
2007-01-22 19:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is an as.s for planting those thought in your head. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. You are a unique, beautiful individual.
Your current BF is an as.s for not telling you that and making you feel better about yourself.
2007-01-22 19:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, the changes of the Heart. It happens. Your Heart, probably wasn't in it, the first place. Next time, wait until it goes,thump thump! That's the one you should go for.
2007-01-22 19:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah ummm....bigger issues in the world than someone that can't get out of their head something about what their ex said and being paranoid about being fat...please dear...grow up.
2007-01-22 19:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lauren_Ann20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have depression. Try this screening test: http://www.med.nyu.edu/psych/screens/depres.html
2007-01-22 19:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dont liek ur self how can u expect anyone else to??
2007-01-22 19:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
growing up is the name for it.
*!*!*!*E X P E R I E N C E*!*!*!*!
2007-01-22 19:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋