my parents don't understand me?

Question

its like they dont care about me. i feel sad and depressed cuz i feel like they don't care so much about me. i just got my report card and i dont want to show them cuz it got worse than the first time. i feel like they would not like me anymore. i feel like they'll look down on me like i cant do anything and im a disappointment. i try tho...they dont understand. i go to the best school in my county and its much more competition. they dont understand how much work and pressure i have on my shoulders. i cry a lot now. i cry at least 15 times a week from stress and pressure. i cant wait til its all over. they dont even know half the things i do. they dont even know that i learned to play the piano on my own. i used to be more open with them, but now i feel as tho they're not gonna care anymore. my lil brothers get more attention than me and i have to admit that i do get jealous sometimes. and when me and my brothers get into fights, they always take their side even when im right and

sometimes they allow my lil brothers to tease me and stuff...it used to be my mom only, now my dad does it. they dont even know how much i feel like im not part of this family. also because i was their first child and there's a seven year gap between me and my brothers. ppl sometimes dont even think im part of the family. i sometimes thing i would feel better without them. then i realize that i still need a family. so what do i do in a situation like this?

Answer 1

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I'm sorry sweetie, but not only do they not understand you...but you don't understand them.

As far as your grades....if they didn't love you, and want the best for you, they wouldn't care what was on the grading sheet.

My advice there....when my boys bring home bad reports, it is always best if they bring them straight to me. Honesty is the best policy in my opinion!! Secondly, when you talk to them about it, tell them that you've already got a plan in place to bring the grades up (or to try to). Tell them that you're going to get extra credit, or ask the teacher for extra help after/before school. Ask your parents for help....etc. When my boys bring a "plan" to me, I always feel like they're on top of things.

I'm sorry that you feel like a disappointment, I am sure that you're not. We parents make BIG mistakes when we let our kids think that they have to "be good" in order for us to love them.....WE LOVE YOU ANYWAY!!

Tell your parents that you feel this way, they might not realize that you think this.....ask them if it's true....I am SURE they will say NO!

You have to realize there is a big difference in being disappointed in the work you're doing, or maybe the way you act sometimes and you as a person.....

Ask them if you can go to family counseling together. Tell them you NEED time with them alone, without the younger children.

They might also not realize that you sometimes feel jealous, or that you feel left out.

I just had a baby, and my boys are 15 and 16....I wonder if they feel this way.....THANKS TO YOU, I'm going to ask them!!

Don't keep your feelings to yourself. Write them an email, or.....ask an adult you trust (counselor or teacher at school, other family member) to help you talk to them.

This is ALL fixable...and best part is....if you make this effort, they are going to be SOOOOOoo impressed with how mature it is that you're communicating!

Take care, and don't sell yourself, or your parents short!!!

Answer 2

first off your parents love you very much---there is probably misunderstanding from both sides going on now----often times teens feel that their parents dont understand them and while some of this is true, in most cases parents have a pretty good idea of what their kids are going through---dont foget your parents were once teens and experienced similar things that you are now going through, Second, I would encourage you to sit down with mom and dad and tell them how much pressure u are feeling at school. Let them know that you feel depressed and that you are crying a lot. Third, you are experiencing a lot of hormonal changes in your body and some of these feelings are quite normal and in time your body will adjust....fourth----explain to your parents that it bothers you when they tease you-----some teasing is ok as long as it doesnt hurt someones feelings and is part of normal family life. Hope this helps...blessings.

Answer 3

I am sorry you feel like your parents don't understand you. Sometimes parents are so wrapped up with their own adult issues that they don't realize a child is hurting. Sometimes one child is a terrific athlete and the other children in the family are slightly ignored. I would suggest that you find an adult who you can talk to comfortably. It may be your grandmother, your aunt, your school counselor or an adult at your church. Find someone who can help you put things into perspective. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I have that plm. with my family and guess what out world and I show my family what I am now. and They were shocked and knowing that I am good and so they were agaist me make fun of me and all that but moving out the house and live on my own and with roommates and jobs and now I am married 2 kids.. but you know, I had to make sure I tells my kids I love you and always can talk to me and I won't be mad.

You are bright and smart. Don't let that get into you, don't let them tease you like that and Tell them how you feel let them know it stress and alot of hard work and alot on my shoulder and stuff like that. and If you were my sister I would stand up for you and tell them to back off and leave her alone she need our help and we need to help her.

But, do you have best friend who can talk to ??? or a friend? I worried about you... if you need someone to talk to you can talk to me anytime and let me know my is [e-mail].. you can email me anytime. I hope I can help you someways. but I didn't like how they treat you and you don't need to be jealous you have to be smart and storng to out comes a best person and they will be sorry... I do believe in you and you can do it. but you need a friends and best friend and aunt uncle or cousin or someone to support you. remember you not only person here so alot people want to help you like me. smling.

Answer 5

If you can, get your parents to sit quietly with you, alone. Tell them what you have told us. If that doesn't help, please talk to a teacher, school counselor, clergy or another adult you trust and respect. You need to be able to talk this out and get help from someone if your parents won't listen. Perhaps the person you choose to talk with is respected by your parents also and will listen to him/her.

Answer 6

i feel terrible sorry for u! that is so shame, i think u need to go to ur school and talk someone that will help u? and talk ur parent with ur feeling then ur parent could talk to u?.. i hope everything are going be well with u...

Answer 7

I feel really sorry for you, but if i were you i would get my ipod and turn it up really loud so then i'll be in my own bubble!

Answer 8

Write them a letter with everything in it.

Dont deal with it with temporary measures whatever you do, if you get me.