does your boyfriend go out a lot with his male friends? especially to the club? do you get mad?

Question

my bf goes out to clubs with his friends like twice a months. sometimes i just can't take it. We have a long distance relationship so i obviously can't be there. I do trust him very much since we have been going out for more than 3 years. but it still buggs him. is it normal? when i visit him, we prefer just stay at home or just be with each other. I just want to know if this is happening to other people too. like getting jealous when he goes out with his buddies is normal.

Answer 1

it's okay that he goes out with friends. you don't want to lock the kid in a cage, he'll dump you for sure, or the relationship will be miserable for the long run. Let him be free to hang with guy friends. You should go and hang out with girlfriends. If he's going out, you go out! Make a life for yourself outside of the boyfriend. You both will be happier.

the thing that worries me here is that he's going to clubs with out you. that is very inappropriate in my book. That is the hard thing with long distant relationships. You feel like you have no idea what's going on. In my opinion there is no reason for him to be going to clubs alone or with the guys. the only reason to go to clubs is to hang out with friends and pick up the opposite sex. he's got a girlfriend... you! he should not be picking up other girls. BUT if you trust him not to pick up other girls and he truly is just hanging out with the guys, it's okay...

If you can't trust your boyfriend, there is something wrong with the relationship. Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. If there are any questions or suspicions, it's not going to work out..or it's going to be a rotten relationship.