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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 to 7 months. He is 17, and I am 14.He told me about a month ago that when he turns 18, he was going to dump me which is in May. Now, I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose someone I love so much. And I told him that he doesn't have to dump me if it is okay with my parents, which it is. And he says "his parents won't approve" and he is a big 'mommas boy'. I'm so lost right now, I love this boy to death.

2007-01-22 11:11:06 · 32 answers · asked by jessdotdotdot 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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He has put an expiration date on your relationship...you are better off ending it right now. He already calls himself a big "momma's boy" Let me tell you, this is not the kind of guy you want in your life. You are young and you will meet more boys. In the end...you will realize you want a man. Date for now...and date a lot. You don't deserve this kind of treatment.

2007-01-22 11:13:22 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 2 0

I'm sorry? Does he have a feeling in his body? OK I can see the opinion that once he is a legal adult, it could look bad for him having a child girlfriend. I don't agree with it, in that you will be exactly the same age gap that you are now. His parents are cracked! But to say, right I'll keep you right up until my birthday, then you're dumped??? I'm sorry, he may legally be an adult, but emotionally, he's a very young child!

That is just freakish! To try to give someone 5 months notice of being dumped?!?!?!

With this evidence in mind, I would seriously evaluate how you feel about him. This is big, and it should encourage you to examine if your feelings are misplaced. If he loved you, this just wouldn't happen. He doesn't take your relationship at all seriously.

You just can't hang around to be dumped in May, you need to end it now and work through the pain that will bring you.

2007-01-22 11:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Im assuming you are sexually active and if you are its obvious what the deal is. He has been using you for sex. When he turns 18 it will then be illegal for him to have sex with you which is why his parents are looking out for him. He could end up being charged with statutory rape. He is planning on looking for a girl his age now for the sex.

Anyone who is 13-17 and having sex with any boy is a fool unless sex is all she wants. No boy is going to marry you or wait for you to turn 18 to marry you. All they want is the sex. Boys dont even think about marriage (normally) until they are into their 20 s or later. If your giving it away thinking its going to keep him or make him love you then you are fools. You are risking pregnancy (which takes all the fun out of being a teen) and STD's which includes AIDS and that is not fun to live with.
Sex will not keep a boy tied to you.

2007-01-22 12:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0 0

Actually a lot of girls have t6his kind of problem! U have to loose him right away! there is no point in loving and being with the guy that doesn't wanna be with u!
Ask ur self questions about it!U r young! he is 4 years older !
He doesn't want u! U have to get over it and dump him first or he will make u look bad! And sit home with a buket of icecream and eat urself through it ! Cry all u want and u will get over it and find a better guy than him!!

2007-01-22 11:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jane 2 · 1 1

Dump him now,because whats the point of waiting and acting like the next few months will be peachy. He should have known better when he was dating you in the first place.
Date a boy your own age,and if the relationship was truly based on love,then he wouldn't need to dump you.

2007-01-22 11:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie 4 · 1 1

You are not going to want to hear what I'm about say ...
but here it goes..
He is right.. when he turns 18 that makes you illeagal...
lets say your parents approve now... but lets say a few months from now you end up pregnant..and he decides he doesn't want to be a dad..your mom and dad could press rape charges or something stupid.. and where does that leave him..he's just looking out for himself.. and u really can't blame him..
I think if you love him let him go he'll come back to you when your older...

2007-01-22 11:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by SHORTY38 2 · 1 0

I agree, lose him now, what an awful thing to say to you, has he know feelings for you.

If he is a big 'mommas boy' then it is only going to get worse as the years go on. Tell him you can not stand the pain of losing him and that you need to get on with your life now. To delay the pain is to much for you.

If you do that now, there is a chance it will shake him up enough to realise he can't be without you and it will give him time to stand up to his mother and say he will not break up with you.

Don't wait till he turns 18, do it as soon as possible.
This time you need to think with your head not your heart.

2007-01-22 11:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by DY Beach 6 · 1 0

He is so mean, I would dump him but I understand that you love him. I would back off if you can. Make him want you more than you want him even if it is hard. Try to not have sex with him for awhile or hang out with him as much, play hard to get for the time being and trust me, he will be there in a jiffy.

2007-01-22 11:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by steffy 3 · 1 0

dump him first! what an idiot to say he is going to dump you when he turns 18. by the time may comes you will be over him. ask him if his mom approves of him being a paedophile

2007-01-22 11:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by gina 5 · 0 0

Wait until after Valentine's day and then dump him. You're much too young to be in a relationship, and he's flat out told you he's going to ditch you in a few months. Why wait?

2007-01-22 11:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 1 0

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