my bf and i were walking in the hall an i saw heard him beside me say' Hey sexy clothes" to another girl. he has friend girls and talks to girls a lot but i don't know about this. it just sounded weird, i don't talk to lots of guys and especially using "sexy" with them....i feel so useless and worthless..... it's not only that but i feel like i'm more ugly and more fat because i think he looks for other girls now. so should i be mad? what should i do?
2007-01-22 11:02:59 · 17 answers · asked by trapped 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, you need to get some self confidence and never allow another person, male or female, to make you feel badly about yourself!
Maybe he just doesn't know the boundaries of your relationship yet? Tell him that it bothered you. If he is sorry, then forgive him and move on. However, if he does it again, then you have a problem.
2007-01-22 11:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be mad but hurt. He had no right to do that in frong of you. What should you do? If I was you, I would confront him about it in hopes that he has a good explaination. You be the jude of rather or not you should keep him around after he explains everything to you. Knowing guys, they don't look at a girls "sexy clothes!" It's usually the body. Like I said, I would ask him about it and then go for there. If you don't, things could get worse with him and you take the chance on never knowing what he really meant which will bug you. Good luck!
2007-01-22 19:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by ~M*a*N*d*Y~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to prepare yourself for the fact that guys are going to do this for the REST OF YOUR LIFE, and you better get used to it. The only defense you have against this is to show the guy you just don't care. Otherwise he gets the satisfaction of knowing he pissed you off, and guys love that. Show me one guy who doesn't think it's funny to tease someone and make them scream, and I'll eat your hat.
What you have to do is establish early on that you WILL NOT put up with him flirting, or even hanging out with girls, or looking at porn movies and mags, or on tv, or you'll leave him. Period.
Don't cave on this one. Demand respect. Would we look at a playgirl and then masturbate in front of him? Hell, no! Demand the same respect in return.
If you can't, you will either be alone, or miserably unhappy all your life. He's already making you feel bad about yourself. I say ditch this one and start fresh, your trust in this one is gone now.
2007-01-22 19:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really.. its NOT a big deal... Guys look.. thats a fact.. and we notice too... and well some of us even have an eye for fashion now and again.. but in anyevent we do tend to know what we Like.. Rather than worry about it maybe ask the chick where she shops and get some sexy stuff of yer own?
2007-01-22 19:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should be mad. But not at him.
First, you should be mad at whoever gave you the impression that you were useless and worthless (and I promise, it didn't start with him).
Next, you should be mad at yourself for even considering this BS. If your boyfriend spends his time checking out other girls, catcalling at them, and making you feel bad, then BREAK UP WITH HIM!
Sure, he may be joking around. But, if it makes you uncomfortable, then it's not right for you and you should leave the situation.
This question honestly has very little to do with your boyfriend or his habits. It has everything to do with you and your vision of your self-worth.
2007-01-22 19:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to chill. The way you said it, it sounded like he was complimenting her more so than trying to "hit on her". He's with you, not the other girls. But if you continue to think you're "too fat" or "ugly", that can really turn a guy off. We like confident girls and that shows that you're not. If you don't feel worthy of this guy, he may since that and leave because of your insecurity. Woman Up, Dammit!!!
2007-01-22 19:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that it's nice that he said that to another girl right in front of you. I wouldn't be mad but I understand why it hurt you. Tell him that you didn't appreciate him checking out another girl...but not in an angry way. Tell him that he needs to respect you a little more than he is.
2007-01-22 19:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'in the hall' so I assume you're in high school or junior high - nonetheless - Get Over IT!!! If he makes you that insecure with just those words, well it's never gonna work!! Ive been married 20 plus years and my hubby still looks and comments about other women - I know him so well I know who he'll look at who he'll comment about... relationships and jealousy never ever work out. Good Luck
2007-01-22 19:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIS ***. If you dont do that to him why should you allow him to do it to you. If I was dating a girl right now I would not do that to her and I would expect the same. Its spelled R-E-S-P-E-C-T. And you deserve it!
If you think you are fat then excercise daily alittle bit get a book by dr kenneth cooper and see how easy it is. And as for ugly--trust me you are not ugly --he is making you feel like you are. Dont believe the lie!
2007-01-22 19:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by T. Watcher 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not realy i use th eword allt he time and it doesnt mean a thing, it is a physical attraction but what he has going on with u is something that no girl could replace. do u think that he would care about their feeling or if they are hurt or not?? i dont think so ,
2007-01-22 19:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋