My little sister is using drugs and my mother isn't doing anything what can I do to make her stop?

Question

My little sister came to me and told me she is using drugs. I told my mother and she said she was going to take the car from her and not let her stay out late anymore but then my sister told my mom she wasn't do that stuff anymore, when i know for fact she is, and my mom believes her so my mom is letting her do whatever she wants. Since my mom isn't doing anything I would like to try as much as possible to do something because I love my sister with all my heart and I have been down the road she is going and I just don't want to see her get hurt or die. Another reason I am so upset about this whole thing is because my sister turns 18 in July and she's getting alot of money from when our father pasted away. I'm just so scared something bad is going to happen or she is going to end up dead. Any suggestions on what I should do would really help me out. Thank you so much!!!

Answer 1

My opinion is that you should approach your mother again a little more firmer this time, and tell her what has been going on and that you are concerned that when your sister recieves the money from your fathers estate that she is going to get into worse trouble (which she will). Mabye the reason your mother hasnt done anything is that she is feeling helpless as your dad isnt around to help, mabye your mother needs some TLC aswell mabye some counselling or mabye you could talk to one of her close friends about it all, they then could provide your mother with some more support.

Then you could get your sister to sit down and talk with your mother and yourself and try to get another trusted adult (a close friend of your mothers) to be a nuetral party in the discussion, dicuss with your sister that you are not trying to attack her but are scared for her future, talk about being truthful (dont accept her lies in front of your mother), and the reasons for the drug taking is it just the wrong crowd she is hanging around or does it go deeper? could she be dealing with issues such as your father passing away or some other emotional issues she is trying to escape?, one good option to bring up with your mother is relocation, get your sister out of the area, away from the drugs, her current crowd,and the peer pressure and start afresh, this has worked with others that i know.

This situation is a serious one, dont give up on her, if all else fails harsher action needs to be taken, sometimes you have got to be cruel to be kind, Rehab, Counselling, Police. At first she may resent you but if she can get through this in years to come she will realise that you helped save her life and she will be grateful. You sound like a lovely strong young woman and your family is lucky to have your caring and responsibility to help them through these hard times, but dont forget about you take care of yourself aswell. Good Luck.

Answer 2

I'm sorry your mom can't see what is right in front of her. I admire you for climbing back from drug abuse and am sorry your sister is in that bad place now. See if you can take her to a local jail and have an addict talk to her or to a hospital that has babies born addicted or some other place that will show her first hand where she is headed if she doesn't stop. Check with hospitals and the police dept. to see if they have programs like this. Suggest to your mom that she do a surprise pee test on your sister if she doesn't believe you. You are right to be worried. Good luck.

Answer 3

My heart goes out for you. Can't say I know how you feel cause I don't. I used to be in law enforcement and it's not a pretty thing to see your sister go out that way but there's not a lot you can do about it. You could call the cops but they won't do anything without evidence and you don't want to see her in jail or even worse in rehab. I'm afraid you're just going to have to let her do her thing and hope for the best. Here's one idea. Write a letter about the whole thing then address it to yourself and mail it. When you get it don't open it. When your sister gets so drugged out after getting the money, let your mother open the letter making sure she sees the post mark date. she can read the letter and see that you tried to tell her but she believed your sister over you. It won't stop your sister but it will keep your mother from accusing you of not telling her.

Answer 4

My wife got two speeding tickets in one week in a car I altered. She had asked me to buy her a motorcycle and as we were walking and I was thinking and praying about what to say we cam upon a motorcycle accident where a mans scalp was pealed back and for the love of my wife I took her hand and led her to the scene. The officer said we could not go near, but when I explained about the situation the officer took us through the crowd and allowed my wife a good look. The speeding stopped and she's an excellent motorcycle rider. My point is to find someone who can arrange for you to take your sister to where she can see what drugs can really do. Best if she doesn't know what your doing, but if you absolutely have; tell her the truth even if that means she will not go.

Answer 5

You really need to make your Mom listen, anyway that you can. If you have to call the police on your sister, do what ever it is you can to stop her. Why is your Mom so with drawn from her that she isn't putting her foot down? Doesn't sound like your Mom is paying much attention to your little sister. Maybe she is wrapped up in her own life perhaps? You need to get your Mom's attention and fast. Tell her that you will support her in what ever way she needs you to support her, and get your sister help and fast.

Answer 6

In situations like this it's not just up to your mother to help, it's a family effort. Just tell her how you feel and that you don't want to loose her. Sit down with her and ask her why she is doing this. Then help her with what ever problems she is facing. And if all don't work. Make someone catch her either your mom , or even cops. She will hate you at first, but later she will realize you did it for her own good. Good Luck

Answer 7

Go to another family member or a friend that you can trust (someone over 18). If that does not work for you then try a Pastor,or some other person in the church. Last step if you can prove it try the cops. I know that sounds harsh. But sometimes tough love is the way to go.

Answer 8

It seems harsh but if she is into drugs to the point you worry, you may have to get her busted for them and when she goes in front of a judge make sure counseling is ordered as well as jail time. If your sister came to you and told you that she was using, try to see if she will go to some type of intervention program and find one for her to get into where you can support her also. perhaps she saw you using drugs and wants to be like you so is doing this also and in that case counselling may help. Good Luck!!

Answer 9

Your question indicates that you are over 18. If you're still enrolled in any type of school, they will have counselors available to you. Ask them for advice and for other resources of advice. Talk to a minister. They also know of many ways to approach these situations. It doesn't really matter whether or not you belong to a church. You will be able to find a minister willing to talk to with just a few phone calls. Find out how to get in touch with narcanon; they provide support for friends and families of drug addicts. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 10

I would suggest to her that you and her go somewhere, away from all the people that she knows. Take a mini vacation and tell her that you want to use this time to help her with her problems and tell her your concerns. See if she will leave her cell phone at home and go with you for some one on one sister time.