2 wks ago my gf went back to sweden for a short stay. Before she left she asked me to take her to the airport. i agreed. on the day of departure we were supposed to meet before she left, then i would take her to the airport later that evening. That morning she leaves me a message saying that family memebers would take her to the airport and she could not meet me and would call me when she got back. I was upset so i tx her a message saying "don't call me any more"! right after i realized my mistake. i tx an apology.. 2 wks have gone by and she should be back. i have not heard from her and she won't take my calls "it goes to voice mail after 4 rings. i am truly sorry for what i text to her that morning and i did apologize. what do i do? How long do i wait? How can i get ahold of her without looking like a crazed stalker? (she came back sat so it hasn't been that long yet)
2007-01-22 10:42:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK...lets TAKE IT EASY,
I don't know how well you know each other or how often you communicate so I'll just say what I think.
- in my opinion she probably won't understand why you were upset because your reaction was a bit exreme
- in my opinion since you apologized now you can only WAIT FOR HER TO CONTACT YOU
- stay calm, ok , you did a "mistake" but you apologised for it
- i would send her a message, as you did, saying I'm sorry and "I'm here to discuss this over with, please contact me, I do wish to meet again"
- her reaction depends on many things....for instance if I were in her shoes...and this would happen in the relationship for the first time...I would called you within the week and discussed it thourouly with you....so i can understand why you reacted in this way.
but
if something like this has happened before....se might not contact you at all so it means it's over. Even if that's the case at least YOU HAVE APOLOGISED and you tried to communicate and explain.
I wouldn't leave to many many messages if I were in your shoes....just one like the one above....that gives her the SPACE TO THINK and act accordingly.
BE PATIENT...I assume A WEEK is enough for her to react.
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2007-01-22 11:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by Aphrodite 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you said to her made you sound weak and lacking in self-assurance. Apologizing so soon only made it worse, because your text "don't call me anymore" revealed you to be reacting childishly. If you had stuck to your guns and waited until two days after she got back (so she could get over jet lag), you could have phoned her (not texted, that is lame for discussing personal issues) with a more sincere apology:
"Hey... I figured you were back by now. How was your trip? Listen, I said something really dumb to you the day you left, but I had a lot of time to think about it. I'm really sorry... I wasn't thinking. I guess I was upset because I hoped to see you one last time before you left, I felt like I needed that to feel sure you would come back. Silly, I know, but it hurt all the same when you left, and I lashed out. Do you think... I mean, can you ever forgive me for being such a jerk?"
Well you can't perform my cheesy little script now, so why not try this: stop trying to contact her for a while. Relax, get yourself together and focus on other areas of your life for now, like work, school, or family. She can't see herself as the center of your world and still respect you. Learn to be strong enough on your own first, by working to improve your situation (academically, financially, and/or socially). You don't have to wait a specific amount of time, but I'd suggest waiting until you have at least one concrete milestone of achievement. (When she asks what you've been up to, you can have something to point to).
When you're ready and confident, contact her through a mutual friend. "Hey, how is
Apologize then, but do not beg. Say that you were angry (at yourself, not her, for being such a child about it) and needed some time to sort things out before you could face her. In other words, honesty. "This is how it was, I messed up. Will you give me another shot at making things right?" rather than "I'm so sorry, please don't leave me! Waah waah."
Sorry if I sounded a bit insulting to you in my post here, it's just a bit of seeing too much of myself in your situation. I wish you good luck.
2007-01-22 19:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by pao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she just got back on Saturday I am sure that she is just getting back into schedule and has a lot of stuff to do now that she's back. She probably has forgotten about the text all together (after all, Sweden is a great distraction) and is busy with other things.
Don't worry, call her in two- three days.
2007-01-22 18:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has an email then email her. Maybe you should send one more tx message saying. Im deeply sorry, what i did was wrong, i hope that we can forgive eachother and move on! please except my apoligies! love-so and so. Or if you call her just tell her that. You wont look like a crazy stalker, everybody understands that friends fight. Trust me!!! And if she is a TRUE friend, then she will except the message and you will continue to be friends!
2007-01-22 18:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course, you overreacted, but what she did was a little rude. How were you supposed to have decent goodbye? She needs to answer the phone. Send her some roses with a decent apology and a note to have her call you, and if she doesn't then pfftt, she is not going to grow up. You will have to move on.
2007-01-22 18:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been together?
I'd meet up with her and talk to her about it. Explain that you were just disappointed that you couldn't say goodbye to her and that you missed her. Tell her you were caught up in anger and that you didn't mean what you said.
If you haven't been together that long and she's still upset about it, oh well. It's kinda a stupid thing for her to be mad over, at least for this long.
2007-01-22 18:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made a mistake by saying "don't call me anymore", you should be saying i love you specially when they're leaving because that could be the last text or words you would hear from them. well, she hasn't tried to contact you , sometimes it means that she doesn't want to be with you anymore. if she calls you back in a couple of weeks, it means that she's still thinking of you. if she doesn't contact you, let her go and find someone else. my grandfather used to say "there are bigger fishes in the middle of the ocean"
2007-01-22 18:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by andy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's kind of crazy but unfortunately you have done everything you could do; you apologized and have made several calls to talk but no response. you cant make anyone do anything and maybe in time she will come around or realize she was being rude. take pride that you made effort to fix the problem but it was only one sided. so don't cry over spilled milk.
2007-01-22 18:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by DEBO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry bro looks like you blew it. But try to leave a detailed message saying how you lost your temper and how truly sorry you are if that dosent work maybe you should just give her sometime to realize what a great guy you are :)
2007-01-22 18:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not have any advice for you except for you shouldnt be so risk-taking if you think that she is cheating on you or desnt want to be with you anymore than you answer this " why would you want to be with some that you can not trust" just explain yourself to her i would not be very forgiving either bc if my family endd up taking me to the airport instead of my bf than thats not an issue family is suppost to be more important it would be different if you all were married
2007-01-22 18:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋