I just wanna know...?

Question

I just wanna know why do some think people shouldn't spank and some do?? I just wanted to know some of your opinions...

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Answer 1

My thoughts as to why some people think one way or the other is simple. Upbringing. Notice that I'm going to same "some" and "most" a lot in this answer. These are my own views and only mean a part of the whole. There are exceptions to every rule.

Many of the people who believe that spanking is good and works think that way because they either a)come from a southern background, where many ideas of raising children are different, but not nescessarily wrong or b)come from a small town community or c)were spanked as a child and thought, in the long run, that it did them good. Personally, I belong to b and c. Spanking, to a certain point, can be usefull in teaching lessons and giving punishment. By no means should spanking ever harm the child with bruises or welts, but a sore bottom for a few minutes can be a good reminder to a misbehaving child. There is also an age that you should not spank. Untill a child can completely understand the meaning of "no" and what they are doing wrong, no form of punishment, spanking included, is going to help.

As for those that believe spanking is wrong, well they are the opposite of above. They might be from a higher class, a more northern family, more urban, more liberal. It could be many different things. I think the most important thing to understand is that unless the child is being harmed, and a slightly sore bottom should not be considered harm, then let each parent raise their child in their own way. What may work for one child might not work for the next.

Answer 2

There are some who consider a spanking as "hitting" a child. I however, have never hit my children. I have spanked each of them, but it happend so rarely that I couldn't even remember the last time it was.
My kids know right from wrong and they know that if they cross the line, that I will spank if I see fit.
I spank to teach them safety. For example, you see a child 15 moths old who is interested in a fan. First you might say No No, ouch!! and pull the child away from the spinning blades. However, the child keeps going after the fan and is in danger of loosing his fingers or entire hand. It's best to swat the little hand to teach them that fans hurt just the way that we all learned not to touch a stove because it's hot.
Children must learn respect otherwise they are in danger of getting hurt.
Imagine your child in the middle of the street and you scream for him to get out of it. Do you count to three before acting on the behavior as many parents do? Or do you rely on the fact that from the start, you've conditioned your child to pay attention to what you say - in order to keep from danger.
In my home, no means NO and there is NO back talk. My children have respect for their parents, teachers, and friends. Someday, they will also be able to follow the rules that their respective jobs entail. They will be able to take direction from employers and be repectful adults with feelings for others.
I figure, that if I don't teach my children NOW, then the justice system might have to do it.
I'd rather have my kids home for Christmas than send them cards to their jail cells.

Answer 3

I suppose it would have to do with your culture, and how you were brought up.
I was spanked very occasionally when I was young, and I turned out just fine.

Answer 4

Spanking can be a fetish in order to be sexually aroused for adults
Spanking for kids is good to make them know right from wrong