How Do I Get Over A Bad Relationship REAL FAST?

Question

ppl , I would need some good advice about how to get over a realy bad realtion that ended with a nasty break up. I think most of u out there may have gone through something similar or have somebody who has.

I would appreciate any tips I get on what is the best course of action.

Answer 1

You could still be energetically connected to your ex, and while that sounds like encouragement from the universe, it's not -- it's you! You still may be giving him/her your energy in thought, emotional, or spiritual form. You could be doing so unconsciously, out of habit, or based on a belief that this love is the only (or the best love) you could ever have. And, quite possibly, you have not allowed yourself to fully grieve it yet.

On the other hand, there is also the possibility that your ex won't let go and is still hooked into you. If this is the case, you can clear that out in a gentle way with love and light (and say goodbye if that's what you wish).

Whatever the case, this may have been the deepest love you have ever shared with someone. But know that it is not the only love (or the best love) that you can -- or will -- share with anyone in the future


When you can't seem to get over an ex-love, ask yourself this: are you in love with her the way she is now or the way you want her to be? If you are in love with what you want her to be then you are in love with an imaginary white princess- and that's the case a lot of the time for a lot of people who are pining. Try this:

Make two columns on a piece of paper. Write down all the qualities you attributed to her when you first met her on one side. On the other side, write down the way she treats you now -- good and bad. Then compare the two.

The way she treats you now and your actual experience of her is reality. It should not be difficult for you to kiss bad treatment goodbye.

MJ

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Try not to have contact with the person, since it sounds you guys are not friends. That means no late night drunk calls, no finding reasons to call or visit, no contact!
Try to put away things that remind you of the person, like a teady bear or picture, in a box for the garage to store or trash if you'd prefer.
Most importants get out!!!! Meet people, hang with your friends/family, go to the gym, go shopping, take a vacation, treat yourself to coffee or a lunch. Become your independent self again.
Do all the things you never were able to do when your in a relationship.
Get a buddy to help you........if you feel down or feel like you might dial the X's number ...........call your buddy!
But most of all learn from it, deal with the facts and events, then you can move on.
Trust me learning from a bad relationship only puts you in a situation to start good ones. You now know what you want and dont want.
And maybe later in the future you two can come to terms with each other and become friends again??!! Good luck!!!!!

Answer 4

All the answers on yahoo cant help you to get over a relationship fast. Some will say get another(that sometimes doesnt help because you have to hear about the ex that they havent gotten over)The only thing that will heal a broken heart is time. Right now it might not seem like it but you will get over him/her. Sometimes things you say in anger in the heat of the moment cant be taken back. If the relationship was bad then you should feel lucky to be out of this stressful relationship.

Answer 5

Just keep reminding yourself that it was a bad relationship and a bad breakup and get on with finding something better. Life is short, so you want to make the most of it, and be happy and put yourself in good situations. Its good that you took yourself out of a bad one. Just keep in mind that you deserve to be happy and find ways to make this happen. What worked for me when my relationship ended badly, was moving to a different city and meeting new people. That was 7 years ago and although I still sometimes think about my ex, I am happy now, engaged to the man of my dreams and we have a beautiful 2 year old son. Good things happen to good people, you just have to learn from your past and apply that to your future. Good luck, I hope Ive helped.

Answer 6

FIrst if you believe in God know that He does have somebody for you and you should have patience. Second whatever your beliefs are realize that if she really did care about you and it was meant to be IT WOULD HAVE WORKED OUT!!! The very fact it did not work out means you were not meant for each other! Its simple as that. And go where the single people are (not bars) but youth clubs in churches or clubs at colleges and hang out with the opposite sex so you dont feel you are like some sort of cursed individual . Then ask somebody out even if they are not the one ask a member of the opposite sex and go out with them. Trust me this will go a long way to help

Answer 7

Well as hard as this seems and as hard it is. Speaking from personal experience. You have to let it be don't call don't talk about it. If you are feeling any type of feeling regarding that situation write them down. There will be times when you just can't help it and you cry or feel blue. That's cool let it out. Just remember the worst is over it can only get better.

Answer 8

Okay, first I would go and vent out my feelings somewhere, probably write it down on paper then rip it up. (That's the safest way to vent it out.) Then, pray about it. It's a quick and easy way to get over a relationship: give it up to God! He's big enough to handle it! That way you get the weight of despair off your sholders and you could live a free life. Then just rent some favorite movies you like and watch them, or hang out with soem friends. That's my solution!

Answer 9

I haven't gone through it so it proably won't be the best advice but there's two ways of dealing with it...you can either brood away your life and be forever thinking about it or move on and find someone else for your love life who share the same feelings with you...life's still young right?

Answer 10

there is no way of getting over a break up. you can find other people to like and role with. keep yourself busy so you don't think of that person. find people to talk about it with. really if it was a bad relationship then it shouldn't bother you. i mean come on. if its bad then its bad and there is nothing you can do about that. i have been there and done that. it sucks, but the best way to get over it is to find someone new.