I've been seeing this guy now for 10 days...not long I know but it feels like we have known eachother forever! We have spent almost everyday together over that time & we get along so so well. I really really like him, & he seems quite smitten with me aswell, however, I am just wondering if I should maybe slow things down a little...I mean, he wants me to go over to his place again tonight [after I turned him down last night, when he asked me to come over].
I really want to see him, but I don't want us to rush through this "honeymoon" phase, & then get bored with eachother. At the same time I don't want him to think I don't want to spend time with him. Don't say I 'should be talking to him about this' cuz I know he would say something along the lines of 'we aren't spending too much time together'. haha.
Should I go to his, again, tonight? We spent all weekend together!!
2007-01-22 10:19:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to take things slow, then do so. Tell him you want to take things slow, and if he doesn't respect your wishes, then he's with you for the wrong reasons.
2007-01-22 10:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nooooooooooooooooooo play it cool. Why is he so hot for you? Yes maybe you found your soul mate or maybe he is getting over another girl or maybe etc etc. Play it abit cool 2 or 3 times a week is enough for the first month. Thats right month! If he is the right one it will not make him go away. And dont worry if he is the one he will stay. Dont be mean or anything say I will see you on this day but I have work etc on that day dont lie --Im sure you have other stuff going on. Be sweet so it shows you are an indpepent person and not one rejecting him.
2007-01-22 10:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by T. Watcher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need to slow it down than do just that.
Obviously as you expressed so well that its only been 10 days in which it sounds like you've spent at least 3 consecutive days of them.
It seems like you guys are hitting it off greatly, but it sounds like the volume of time spent together is overwhelming you a bit.
Talk to him as gently as you can, express how much you like him, but you'd like a little breathing room. Its healthy!
Good Luck!
2007-01-22 10:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel rushed, slow down. You've spent plenty of time with him and if he feels rejected by you staying home just once, he's got some issues. Don't let anyone rush you because you're scared you'll lose them. If you lose someone based on something like that, he wasn't worth it anyway. Good luck!
2007-01-22 10:25:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frustration, anger, be apologetic about, paranoia. you would possibly want to both wrestle with one yet another too, plenty. that is complicated and there are going to be extra cases than no longer, that that's mandatory to take concerns on your own hands, in case you get my waft. Abstaining is demanding, yet when that is what you're going to do, practice for some chilly showers, health center pastime and some really annoying nights. do exactly not enable it ruin your relationship.
2016-12-02 22:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some boundaries. If you give him everything he wants he just going to use it and then get bored with it.
2007-01-22 10:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm yah yah should way too fast you may really like eachother but that don't mean you truly know eachother
2007-01-22 10:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead it's love :D
2007-01-22 10:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, go ahead.
2007-01-22 10:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by Food For Thought 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋