how can i ask my fiance about singing a prenuptial ... i have some real estate under my name....thanks?

Answer 1

Just bring it up. Be straight forward and honest.

"I want a pre-nup. I plan on making an appointment with a lawyer tomorrow or the next day. This is very important to me, and is not negotiable. I love you and this is not a reflection on our love. This is strictly a cover my butt maneuver."

Answer 2

Although I'm only 26 and have never been married -- nor do I have any desire to get married in the next few years -- I know of two couples who have prenups. Both couples have great relationships and both their marriages are going strong. I've asked them about prenups before because I'd probably want one when the time came. Both couples said that the best way to ask for a prenup is to be straightforward. Beating around the bush will only bring about a sense of shadiness. You don't want that.

In response to what several people above me have posted regarding the sanctity of marriage, I offer my opinion for you to consider:
Although I completely agree that marriage is a sacred institution and a lifelong commitment, I believe that people who use this belief as the sole basis of their denouncement of prenups are being a bit too idealistic. In today's society, divorce is very much a reality, and it's best to recognize it and face it than to turn away. As an extension of the reality of divorce, I believe prenups are becoming almost necessary to protect BOTH parties' interests in case of a split. This is especially the case when one or both parties are entering the marriage with something significant to lose (i.e. real estate, other valuable property, and investments).

By no means would I ever want a divorce, but I'd for sure like to know that my own interests are protected in the unfortunate event that it happened. There's simply no place for idealism when it comes to the possibility of losing a significant amount of your interests.

Anyways, like I said earlier, my answer to your question is this: Be straightforward, be honest, tell him (I assume it's a he since you said fiance and not fiancee) what you want to protect because you'll have to anyway in the prenup, and explain why. If your fiance says no, then you may need to reconsider your marriage decision and determine whether he has any ulterior motives in refusing to sign a prenup. I'm not being cynical, just realistic.

Answer 3

Well, if you feel that either party should sign a pre-nup then it sounds like your not ready to be married. Marriage is a LIFE LONG committment, not a well, we like each other for now and we'll see what happens in the future sort of thing. I wouldn't even consider signing one and I would never ask anyone else to.

Answer 4

First of all people dont SING a prenup they SIGN it.
Just ask him out right. Say "hey will you sign a prenup" because I would feel better if you did. BUT you must sign one to if he wants you too.

Answer 5

be honest and tell him that just in case this doesn't work, you are just protecting yourself. If he doesn't understand then just talk some more. Let him know you love him, you have gotten advice from someone on the aspect of pre-nutuals..

Answer 6

Although it is common these days, I really don't agree with that. I think that marriage is sacred and you both are becoming one. By splitting things in the beginning, you are already seperating you two. Again, this is just my opinion.

Answer 7

if u have to ask for a prenup then maybe u shouldnt be getting married.....sorry i dont mean to sound mean but seriously...think about it.

Answer 8

just ask. If he loves you, he will understand.

Answer 9

You want to do it in song??