I've been with my girl for 5 years, I recently hooked up with a girl i dating in junior high, she wants me! I think i have feelings for her as well, what do i do? ditch one for another?, have both? stay where i am?
2007-01-22 10:04:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may think you like this girl because you are less attracted to your current girlfriend. Find out if that's true and go from there.
2007-01-22 10:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by HeadOverHeels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the position in which you must trust heart instead of your desire. Do you base your love on attraction or attitude or maybe both. The reason I ask is because what is it about the new girl you like that the one you've been with 5 years?
These are the issues you must face a long. If I had to face your situation (I wish to God I did have to) I would weigh the difference. The girl for 5 years, do she treat me nice, is she dedicated to this relationship, is she faithfully and loving toward you, is she a good listener etc....
Since you have not mention anything negative about the first love of 5 years, I would solely keep my honor of love for her. Specially since you don't know too much about the new girl.
Some people don't how good they have until they get foolish and lose it!
2007-01-22 18:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude,
Don't be a jerk and a scum at the same time. If you've been dating a girl for 5 years you should have the decency to tell the other girl that you already have a serious girlfriend and that you can't date this other girl.
If you dump one for the other you girlfriend of 5 years will not take you back if things don't work out with the other girl. And if the other girl breaks up with you then it will be your loss because you just loss 2 girls instead of no girls.
So be smart and stick with the girl you already have and tell the other girl that you already have a girlfriend. Stand up and be a man about it!
MJ
2007-01-22 18:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Jeff - It is what it is ☺ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my guy for about 5 and a half years but recently I have been talking to another guy that really appeals to me also. I am still going through all this bullcrap. But I will give you this advice...
Make a list with one girl on the left and the other on the right, list the compatibilities you have with that person one by one and after you have listed everything that you can think of about that person, make your decision based on two things.
(1) What is in your heart
(2) Who are you most compatible with or who makes you feel as if you are worth something in this world.
2007-01-22 18:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by ~~The Female Phenom~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you've already cheated... your present girlfriend needs to know... Weather or not she'll forgive you should be the question here. But you have to ask yourself who you have stronger feelings for... you mustn't keep both... It's not fair to either of them. Being with someone for five years, especially these days, is quite an accomplishment... Maybe it's that seven year thing two years early? You must evaluate your self and your feelings and then decide... Good Luck.
2007-01-22 18:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen theres only one person that can have your heart. If someone had it for five years and another person comes along the heart holder was only temperary case or it can be that the heart taker can be a temperary case of wanting something new. People cant tell you what to do in a situation like this because its something you have to decide for yourself but i can tell you some things to think of: how can some one come along and steal your heart?
how would a break up feel?
is the heart holder worth holding on to?
is the heart taker worth giving up something for?
2007-01-22 18:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mz. HeartBroken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to see for yourself what's out there. Play the field a little. How will you ever know if you've got the best chick in the world if you don't really know what it's like to be with others?
If you don't like this new girl you can probably get your old girl back, after some profuse apologizing and lines like "I never realized how much you meant to me until I didn't have you!"
2007-01-22 18:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
throwing away 5 years for a fling is rash. you should really consider the nature of your feelings with the other girl. and you should consider her age and maturity. in seeking a good relationship, dont settle with instant gratification but seek the long term results as well. for sure keeping both is immoral and will only hurt everyone in the end. decide between the two, which will keep you happier in the long run.
2007-01-22 18:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by Gene I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off with the first girl, if you're really sure you want it with the second. If the first finds out, things can get pretty bad, considering all the things a girl might do. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, after all.
2007-01-22 18:09:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your old girl. Eventually you will get married, i mean 5 years and you are not married?! If you want the other one she will probably understand that you are bored with her or she will make herself more attractive because she really wants to stay together. So either way ask your old girl before going to the new one. And DONT CHEAT ON THEM!!! OR THEY WILL TEAM UP AND KILL YOU LIKE JOHN TUCKER MUST DIE!
2007-01-22 18:11:47 · answer #10 · answered by kingmartineau 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋