I have been going out with a lovely man for only 6 weeks, but would like to ask him if he would like kids one day, NOT NOW!!, but if its on his life plan. The reason is, i had a lovely bf for 3 years and never talked about this, then he asked me if i would consider having a baby and i said no. I just dont want to waste another 3 years, getting to know someone, only to realise that we dont want the same things! I already have 2 kids from a previous relationship.
2007-01-22 09:58:56 · 7 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have to ask him straight out about kids. Just ask him what his longer term goals are. Just keep it casual and don't make him feel pressured.
2007-01-22 10:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find a way of asking him I wasted 10 years with someone to find out we had different ideas on how we should spend the rest of our life and now stuck on my own probably for the rest of my life
2007-01-22 18:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by rocky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six weeks in is very early to be thinking about kids at all, surely?
If you feel that strongly, you could let it be known that you're not thinking about having any more kids, that you're done in that department, and if he has strong feelings about wanting kids, he'll probably start to discuss it.
2007-01-22 18:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by RM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you want to hold onto this guy tthen I wouldnt ask that queston just yet......your still getting to know each other so just take it one day at a time........you never know you might realise you wouldnt want to have a kids with him anyway.
2007-01-22 18:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont do it yet you will scare him off.
wait until he mentions kids and then you know he wants to talk about it.
2007-01-22 18:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only six weeks for gods sake just enjoy ur time together
2007-01-22 18:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by crunchymonkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too pushy give him space
2007-01-22 18:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋