ive been with my boyfriend 2yrs and we love each other he lives in birmingham i live in kidderminster. he finishes with me when i go on a night out he says he trusts me but dont trust people round me. but when i went out with him before i was all over the dj and we split for a bit i really regret it cuz he dont let me out i feel like im in prison when i do go out i have to lie to him which is a lot of touble i really dont know what to do?
2007-01-22 09:56:09 · 11 answers · asked by DONNAIS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
first off...he has no rights keeping you in...go out when ever you like and don't let him keep you stuck in the house, just because you made a silly mistake one night don't give him the rights to stop you going out of the house....that's early signs of a controlling and abusive person..you may not see it but looking in from the outside, that's just what he is....if that were be me i'd be packed and gone....why put up with it...ell him to get lost...theres plenty of men out there who will treat you better than that....your not his doormat, don't allow it...do what you like and tell him to bog off
2007-01-22 10:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is feeling insecure in your relationship for a reason. If you were all over a dj, I think anyone would get jelous and insecure. You are not making him feel secure enough. You need to tell him that he is the sexiest guy and the only guy you want to be with and that when you go out on your own, you are not looking for anyone else and you think of him. If you love him, you will do that for him but please mean what you say and stop being all over other guys in front of him. Just place yourself in his shoes if he was all over a girl..
2007-01-22 10:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by violet b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really read your question a few times you will find the answer there plain for you to see. You will not be happy living with this guy he is far too controlling and will ruin your life, if you have to lie to him now what about if you got together your life would be hell. Think about it, Good luck to you, I hope you make the right decision. Life is so short to be unhappy.
2007-01-22 11:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let your heart blind your mind. please step back and observe your situation with your eyes clear. he is trying to posses you. you are not an object. you aren't own-able. if he is acting this way now, i will guarantee you it will only get worse in time. and i don't care if he says its not that he doesn't trust you, its others, well that is a pile of you know what. if he trusted you at all, then the others won't be an issue because he knows you are responsible. i would step back and reevaluate your relationship. and i would be honest, try to get out. be safe.
2007-01-22 10:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by bimmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard when that bond of trust is broken but if you truly love each other as you say then you both can still work through things. but your first step has GOT to be no more lies, it will be hard no doubt about it but a relationship based on lies will only crumble in the future. goodluck
2007-01-22 10:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by mand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're lying to him already, the relationship is finished. It can't survive if there is no truth in it.
Better admit what you've been doing. Say you're sorry, and let it go.
2007-01-22 17:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U sound like me overly friendly just wanna have fun.I know i can get myself in trouble without meaning to so i take my man with me when i go out. Tell him to come too if that is his concern.
2007-01-22 10:24:32 · answer #7 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi .
Never lie/whats the use/ relations do get disturbed because of this wrong act on either side.Truth must prevailfor for lasting relationship/friendship means utmost goodfath. .R
2007-01-22 10:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by raashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cheated on him? Wow...ok. Break it off with the dj because he was ur second like and ur BOYFRIEND is ur first like and dont tell him, but if u feel guilty about it still...tell him and get it off ur chest [expression].
2007-01-22 10:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop lying to him How do you ever expect him to trust you if you keep lying to him. Let him know you love him and you wanna work on earning his trust again.
2007-01-22 10:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋