I cannot talk to her or look at her. I don't think I stare her down. Whats her problem? Is she discriminating me? I think so! I am part deaf. She is not. Freely talks to all, but not me. Sad situation. She is so unprofessional business wise to me.
2007-01-22 09:54:08 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I been to supervisor, she thinks she will not change. I am told I ask to personal that she does not need to answer but she does and goes behind my back to superior and then I get a talking to. Real Stupid company!
2007-01-22 10:47:24 · update #1
maybe you just make her feel uncomfortable for whatever reason and she doesn't know how to handle it, or maybe she's just plain rude or discriminatory toward those she considers beneath her, try talking to her in private.
2007-01-22 09:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mystee_Rain 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has a personal problem. This is really sad especially if she is a supervisor. If she is a co-worker, she is a fool. I would go to the nurse or medical station and indicate to them that "I am deaf." I would ask that those personnel would please give me a copy of your notification. Now you would then have documentation of your deafness. Next I would tell the offending individual that you are deaf and ask her to speak louder when communicating with you. Other than that, you NEVER heard anything that this individual has said. Do not discuss this with any one else. YOU ARE A WINNER!!! Keep a daily journal if this person persists in this rude behavior. Then, and only then, if she persists, you, my dear would have a case. Remember this, "If God be for us, who can be against you?" - Romans 8:31. Peace and God Bless.
2007-01-22 10:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by In God We Trust 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you new to the job??? Otherwise I would say initiate conversation and always include her in conversation when she is around avoiding eye contact etc... will get you nowhere except to further uncomfortableness. If you think she is uncomfortable because of your hearing difficulty make a joke and move on then if she does not respond I would directly ask her what the problem is. Having an unhappy work environment can affect your whole life negatively. Good luck!!!
2007-01-22 10:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by jessica m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your disibility makes her uncomfortable. There are people who are very ignorant when it comes to those who are different. I don't think you should take it personally though, it's her problem and not yours. What you can do like the other's have suggested is start up a conversation with her and let her see that you are just like everyone else. Sooner then later (if she's really not a jackass) she won't even notice your disiblity and just see what a fun and great person you are. Good luck!
2007-01-22 10:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by califonialove 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Sometimes people don't know how to deal with others who are different (i.e. disabled or, in your case, deaf-ish). I would start by saying "Good Morning" to her when you first see her. Make brief eye contact and smile. Eventually try to slip a few pieces of small talk in. Ask her how her weekend went, or ask her if she plans on watching the superbowl. Things like that. She may just be intimidated by her. If you prove to her that you can communicate just as well as everyone else can, I'm sure she'll warm up to you. As I said, I imagine she just doesn't know how to deal with you. It is up to you to teach her! Good luck.
2007-01-22 09:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by True Dat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just doesn't know how to talk to a deaf person and feels embarrassed. Some training for her on how to treat people with disabilities seems to be in order.
There is a great video we show at my workplace-"The Ten Commandments of Communicating with People With Disabilities." Maybe you should try to persuade your company to buy it and invest in some diversity training.
2007-01-22 12:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy Lou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are uncomfortable around others that they think have "disabilities" and so will avoid conversation. Or maybe she just thinks you don't like her. Either way, try talking to her first, and see how it goes.
If it goes badly, then you'll know it's not a matter worth worrying about anymore. :)
2007-01-22 10:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by Halloween 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is one of those people who is scared of something that she does not know, your deafness scares her she doesn't know how to communicate with you how loud to talk, if she should face you when she talks to you, so it's easier for her to treat you as the outsider. Either that or shes doing it deliberately because she wants you to know that she doesn't like you, either Way it's her problem not yours deal with her only when you have to and be as professional as you can and maybe it will rub off on her,good-luck
2007-01-22 10:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by Katprsn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she probably doesn't understand that she can talk to you if she knows you are part deaf.... descrimination ...? no, i don't think so... but maybe.. I personally have never been around a deaf person nor had the opportunity to talk to them, but if i did, i wouldnt be sure as to what to say, or even if they could hear me...make sure she knows u can hear her.. and that might change things. ...maybe she is nervous that it will be a loss cause? .. maybe one day YOU try talking to her, and go from there.. She seems nice.. give her a chance.
2007-01-22 10:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie. 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were you I would either ignore her or try to be super nice to her. She probably feels uncomfortable and as a result is acting rudely. It would be best no to complain about her to your supervisors, even though she is the unbusinesslike one, b/c you will be the one looking like that.
2007-01-22 13:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just needs you to take the initiative. Perhaps with your disability you havent meant to "stare her down", yet you were looking at her intently to make out what she was saying?
The best way to make a friend is to be a friend. Good luck, and if it doesnt work out, forget about her.
2007-01-22 09:59:26 · answer #11 · answered by sierraskyesmom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋