my mum lives 3 hours away from me, she is getting less mobile since last year, if she goes to a nursing home they will take her house, then i won't have much inheritance, should i look after her long distance? train and 2 buses each way. I also have a brother but he has nothing to do with her.
2007-01-22 09:51:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the nursing home will only take what she owe's them so there may be money left over.
she could alternatively pay for a home careworker using money from an equity release scheme.
2007-01-22 10:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by epbr123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whow!!!! You sound more troubled by no inheritance than looking after your Mother. Does not matter if bro. has anything to do with her--you do obviously. Take the train or better still why not sell the home house- take the money and build on to your home for her space. Easy solution- plus you gain equity in your house and then Mom is right there for you to look out after. No more trains or traveling.
2007-01-22 11:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get power of Attorney and get your mom to sign the house over to your name and if you cannot take care of her long distance then put her in a reliable nursing home closest to your home and visit her everyday and spend precious time with her because that will be a memory you will cherish with till her dying days. When my sister had mom put in a nursing because she could no longer be a 24 hour nurse mom needed. Our mom did not own her own home at the time but she put her in a nursing home near her. My sister and us bonded with mom like never before and had some awesome moments and time with her and enjoyed her till The Lord took her home.
2007-01-22 11:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move her to your house that way you can keep an eye on her and you could like someone else said sell her house and put an addition on your house so shes 3 minutes away instead of 3 hours away. Its going to kill you in no time if you keep going back and forth. And that's your mom the person who raised you for 20 years don't you think that you owe her that at least that.
2007-01-23 02:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
circulate away. you already know which you have taken care of her maximum of your existence up till this factor. do no longer permit her smash your existence. you're 34 years previous. existence is going by using rapidly would not it? permit her stay interior the dwelling house. If shes an interest seeker there is not any concerns in getting interest with human beings there. she would be able to't carry you down. have confidence me, it particularly is totally unhappy to experience such as you're forsaking her. you already know all she choose's is you thru her facet. yet what approximately your existence? tell her the way you experience. you elect somebody by using your facet, your guy or woman occupation, and in spite of alternative issues you're able to experiencing. permit her circulate to the dwelling house. existence your existence. and additionally, if something, i do no longer propose any offense, SHE is the undesirable mom for restraining you from existence. you're actually not the undesirable daughter. She is the on elevating you. you need to no longer be elevating her. permit your father on the least shield her. i don't understand what else you're able to do, yet i actually wish i helped. playstation : you're a solid daughter. every person to be keen to sacrifice their very own incredibly some existence to shield a completely smart female purely for her convenience could no longer be any much less of a brilliant daughter.
2016-12-12 17:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by amass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyway you can get "power of attourney" or whatever? I suggest you see a lawyer as you should be able to retain your mother's estate in the event of her death unless the rights of the house were turned over to the nursing home in the contract for her care.
2007-01-22 09:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is that all you are worried about is your inheritence if so then yes by all means save the house but if you really care then i would do whatever i could to spend time with her while she is still around sometimes that could be better than an inheritance
2007-01-22 09:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by jessica lopez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The long distance thing isn't going to work, you'll be a complete nutcase in no time. You need to either move her in with you or let them take the house.
2007-01-22 10:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my mom living with me it was great she died in2004,we did everything together.My brother visit her only once a year
2007-01-22 09:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move closer to her or hire someone to take care of her for pete sake she's ur mom, i would look after my mom no matter wot.
2007-01-22 09:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by lilac. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋