When will I feel better ?

Question

I have suffered the loss my wife back in March and I have consumed with sorrow ever since. I have read myriad books on the subjects of death,mourning,grieving,suicide,and lonliness just to cope with what I am feeling

My heart was broken when her life ebbed away in my arms and I struggle with the daily activities of life.

Answer 1

you may never feel better on the subject. she was your love. she was your heart. the only way to get through the pain is to take it day by day. don't rush anything relating to your feelings. there is no quick fix solution. you just have to take your time and try to get back to normal. spend time with family, go on a trip. start writing in a journal about your feelings and then reference it periodically so you can see the progress you've made. you don't have to let her go in any way. you just need to now get back to base with yourself and keep living your life knowing one day you may be together again. there is no magic timeline. you'll know when enough is enough. hopefully, someday soon you will realize that the only thing that she would want from you now is for you to be happy with the rest of your life as she was with her life with you. good luck.

Answer 2

You poor soul...take to heart that she is no longer suffering, and she wouldn't want you to continue in your state of mind. You must find solice and support for your emotional state and do not be alone any longer. Call on your family and friends but also find a good support group which can help you cope with your loss. You no longer need to be in this sorrowful state...if You don't want to anymore! Go and get some help and support and keep yourself busy with upbuilding and productive activities! Good luck and Godspeed in your recovery!

Answer 3

You realize how much you relied on her for socialization and now you are unable to achieve the pleasures you once had. On top of this your depression allows a stranger to not give you a second chance. How can you begin afresh? I ask you to think of some ideas yourself all of which have to do with your dealing with your friends and family on your own. You can see if they wont look at you fairly you will have to move on to new friends. Some people have a tight group socially that will provide for the needs of each member as life goes on. It is not a choice here. Study in the depression support rooms how others are coping. The therapy of many peers is the best answer for your needs.

Answer 4

I am so sorry for your loss. Give it time. Accept the help of friends and family.

Keep a journal of the good times you had with her, write down things that remind you of her. Do volunteer work for an organization that she would have liked. If she liked children volunteer at a school. If she liked animals volunteer at an animal shelter. there are so many things you can do. to take your mind off her but still keep her close.

Answer 5

you have had a double blow. you not only have the loss of your wife, but you were there when she passed. i know you've probably heard it and are tired of hearing it, but give yourself time. a loss that deep will take longer to heal and not only that but the anniversay of her passing is coming up and that can play heavy on your feelings. i am so sorry for your loss. i wish more women out there had men like you and my husband to love them so much. you always hear of the wife beaters but the ones who love and care for their spouse never get the media spotlight. i wish there were someway i could help, i hope you don't mind but i'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers

Answer 6

I am sorry about your loss. It's never easy. Just hang in there. Having a pet esp. a dog really helps.

Answer 7

My condolences. She sounds like she was a special person.

Answer 8

Before she was a part of your life, were you in such a condition? No... you were all good.

Answer 9

only time can tell...