What do people actually say about the middle child?

Question

Just wandering because I always here people say that, but I don't actually know

Answer 1

The only thing I have ever heard is sometimes the middle child has a hard time dealing with not being the oldest, therefore not being able to do the same things, thus feeling the oldest have special privileges....and sometimes feels jealous of the youngest...because they get away with a lot more...which makes them feel more special being the baby of the family....and they being the middle doesn't stand out as being anything special....as a parent....I do not feel a middle child could possibly be any less special than any of my children...but we are speaking of the perception of the child.

Answer 2

They say that the middle child misbehaves more when they are kids for attention; they are often unintentionally the family scapegoat because the first born gets the oldest child privileges and the youngest gets the baby of the family privileges. The middle child is too young to do anything and to old to get away with anything. I am a middle child and I admit that I am an attention seeker. I think the middle child also works the hardest maybe to prove themselves and stand out.

Answer 3

I am a middle child, and a few things I have heard is that middle children are always trying to get attention, which could account for me loving to act and speak in front of large groups. I have also heard that middle children tend to be peacemakers in their family and other relationships, the are passive aggressive, the tend to be more detailed oriented, they have good study habits, and they often feel left out. I know I am definitely a peace maker, passive aggressive, and I thrive on details. I have horrible study habits and I enjoy having time to myself. I think the whole middle child syndrome thing really depends on whether or not people are willing to buy into it. Do I think from the things I have read that it exists? For some people yes, some no, I think family structure and personality play a lot into it.

Answer 4

Is there such a thing called - "The Middle Child Syndrome"?

Middle children share the advantages of both the older siblings as well as the younger ones. They often become good mediators and negotiators. Gautam Sengupta is the middle child. He says, "I really enjoyed being the middle sibling. I wasn't the oldest, so I didn't have to live up to any expectations. I wasn't the youngest, so I wasn't bullied as much. I think I had the best of both worlds."

Meenakshi has a different story to tell. She is the middle child, with an older sister and a younger brother. "My older sister gets all the attention because not only is she older but she is also more beautiful. My brother gets a lot of attention, of course because he is the the heir apparent to my father's business. I resent my parents for putting me in such a situation where I don't count in the family and where I am just taken for granted!"

Sadhna echoes similar sentiments. "Parents need to realize that they should treat me like an adult, and not keep babying me around. They treat my older sister as a grown up for things they should not. Although she is only 2 years older than me, she is given the importance and respect of being at least 5 years older than me."

Middle children often feel that they are neither here nor there. In their view, the roles of the older and younger siblings are more clearly defined. They may also feel cheated of parental attention that is given to the first-born achiever and the dependent youngest child. Some psychologists have given this condition a name - they call it "the middle-child syndrome".

Parents need to go out of their way to ensure that the middle child does not feel neglected. They should convey to the child that his thoughts and opinions are as important as those of his other siblings. They should also point out the advantages of being a middle child, telling him that he can understand his siblings best as he is both an older child and a younger one.

Whenever parents are told about this, they are truly surprised that there is such a thing like the middle-child syndrome. Parents may think they have done the best for all their kids, but isn't it time they asked their middle child his/her views?

Answer 5

I guess they say no different than what they say about any child. I don't think there is an issue when it comes to the first born or the last. Children are chilren and should all be treated with the same love and affection you show the other one.

Answer 6

mmm i don't know?
My 10m/o will be the middle child in May and my husband keeps teasing her saying she'll be the left out one. The oldest is favored for being the first and the youngest is favored for being the baby - well, not in my book!!!
All my kids are treated equally.
My husband was the middle child of 5 kids and he was left out and ignored, overseen because of the other kids, but see, he was a mama's boy, none of the other kids are close to their mother like my husband.
I honestly don't know the answer to your question. My husband jokes about our daughter being the middle, but she's still our baby and we treat her no different neither does our families.....

Answer 7

Middle child is always get least from parents.

Answer 8

we are the ones blamed for every thing. the least favroite kid. the one forgotten. and the one that every one thinks is never "good enough".

I am the middle child in this family. I am the hardest worker by far, and have 2-3X the skills of the other kids. I have gotten almost every award my older brother has gotten, and more of my own awards. but I am still not "good enough" I started college 2 years early compared to my brother, but I am still not "good enough". I have done every thing and more than my older brother in the community, at church, in school, in every way posable BUT (to my parents at least) I am still not "good enough".

my advice to parents is to never have more than 2 kids. one will always be left out, and most of the time it is the middle child.

Answer 9

from what i hear a lot of people say the middle child is the moodiest and feels like they don't get enough attention at times

Answer 10

I'm a middle child.

Middle children are usually not the Alpha male/female "A" type personality. They are more passive/agressive.