Why do girls act like sex is not important to them when they know it is?

Question

Girls always talk about how guys only think about sex but when they meet a guy that they like and he doesn't bring up sex then they start to think his gay and they'll probably stop seeing him. If a guy is bad in the bedroom and this is the only problem in the relationship, the girl will usually leave. So why do girls say sex is not a deal breaker when it is to most of them?

Answer 1

females God bless us , must feel desired and we like knowing a guy wants us but sex truely isn't a big of an issue w/ us as it is with guys is it right maybe not; the fact remains we can go alot longer w/out it than most guys but we must feel that we are the object of our guys desire or we move on.welcome to the complicated mind of woman.

Answer 2

Coming from a female, I will tell you straight up that they are lying. Sex is a huge part of a relationship and any intelligent person will tell you this. Females just like to bullshit cuz it makes them feel better. But just plain sex is not what MOST girls are looking for, they also connect on a more intimate level, so if they are saying it isnt important to them then perhaps they mean that the actual sex is not important, but the whole deal is.

Answer 3

Again, here we go with the sweeping generalizations regarding half of the population and the way "they" think.

For the girls who have done this (and you've talked to all girls, right?) I think it may be because they have also been listening to stereotypes, only about the guys. If guys are supposed to always be thinking about sex but this one is not then something must be wrong with him, right? Or if he isn't thinking about it with her then something is also wrong, right?

Confusing and stupid. Most of these problems in communication and misconception could be cleared up with a little more direct communication and a little less game playing.

All women want to know they are desirable to the object of their affection. If he doesn't seem interested then she may think he doesn't really care for her in a physical way. It's rather insulting or at least boring. And for those sisters who are weak in the self esteem dept it can be an insult.

That's the best I can do for you, Darling. But do me a favor and try not o judge all of us by your experiences with a few. OK? Thanks.

Answer 4

You are wrong my friend, by a long shot! Guy's have the upper
hand there because to give out freely, damned if we do & damned if we don't. eg. Have sex the 1st date you class us a slut
there has to be an open window of discussion about sex, which
isn't happening with you'se today which is a very important issue
today, with all STD's, Aids, Hep C. etc. If you meet the right 1 u
should be able to have an open conversation of this importance
& visaversa, nice girl different approach.Try it, being straight up.
Best o Luck,
diana d

Answer 5

Sex is VERY important in a long term relationship!! I'm a born again christian and I know that I want a great sex life with my future husband (I hope he's got nice body features too!). Here's the thing though: alot of guys think that sex is the ONLY thing in a relationship, and that will drive us women insane! Sex is certainly a HUGE factor in a healthy relationship (I believe that you can't have sex without love, and that you can't have love without sex), but its not the ONLY factor!! To may guys think that its the ONLY factor, that we women exist as sex objects and nothing more!

Answer 6

It is not important to most women. Girls on the other hand, keep a tally like the boys do. They like to brag about who they've they've conquered. I doesn't matter if your good in bed or not, although if you are, your name will be trashed all over the girl's locker room. What matters is how hot you are. Then it won't even matter if you are bad in bed or not. The girls will lie about it because all they'll want their friends to know is "I banged him last night." Because he is so hot. They will say "and he rocked my world" Its basically the same little game the guys play, except you guys don't know that we play it. Then we grow up. When you bang as many guys in your youth as you can...than sex doesn't seem as important anymore.

Answer 7

That's the same stupid nonsense that many people have to deal with on a daily basis.

Girls wonder will he think I'm a sl*t, or easy, or whatever. The guy doesn't wanna come off like a jerk. Then you got the whole Religious Right and their insane rules on sex which I'm not even going to get into.

Answer 8

You know what men, women they both like it but the means to it is different. To both people it's imporatant, but usually it's more to the male. It's fastfood vs. a beautifuly planned out dinner for two that is sweet and memorable. Sensualness and beauty and meaning can be found in snuggling, cuddling, understanding, and kindness are all heartfelt. For male, it's almost a rush and who's got time for deep fulfillment. Well remember it's a 2 way street, and true romance is about meeting your significant other's need, communicating to understanding, connecting mentally, until it's like a partnership. Her needs are as important as yours, trully fulfilling.

Answer 9

What girls mean by this is sex is just not sex for the sake of sex ..Girls have different needs then men and it is far more emotional for a girl then a guy. If he is bad meaning ...? he doesn't put any thought into it ..or just gets off himself ..that is what girls consider bad ..A guy who takes his time..foreplay is key to girls .. and sees what she wants as well is never BAD and never kicked out of bed..

Answer 10

Women have lives outside of sex (I know! weird concept, huh, guys), so it is not constantly on their minds. And when a man is bad in bed, it is one long, agonizingly boring ordeal. Why would anyone want to submit themselves to that kind of boredom again? Make it fun, men! Explore! Feel how soft her skin is. Appreciate her curves. Tell her how good she feels, how good she looks.. And play teasingly with her body before you get to the deed. Jump and hump does not work.