i have known brian for five years now
we are BEST FRIENDS
its wierd to most people cuz im a girl he's a dude.. but its totally amazing for the two of us
im mean we both have our separate friends but we love eachother ya know?
well i think i might just love him a little more than i lead on..
the problem is, he has a girlfriend. but she is all wrong for him and it is so obvious!
what do i do?
2007-01-22 09:37:38 · 24 answers · asked by gigi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just let him know
2007-01-22 09:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your use of "like" and the slang writing terms, I would say you are too young to know what true love is or to determine who is right for this guy you speak of.
If this girlfriend is infact "all wrong" for him, then he will be the one to decide whether or not that is true, in which case it will be up to him to dump her. He may or may not decide to go any further with you.
If he was so in love with you, he would have already dumped the girlfriend.
My advice is to stop throwing the word "love" around, and get to know this guy on a more mature and maturely intimate level.
Oh and just because you feel close to a guy and you are best friends, and you have feelings for one another doesnt mean he is the one you should be with as a long term relationship.
You dont really know someone until you live with them and you commit yourself to them 100% for about 2-5 years. FYI
Good luck
2007-01-22 09:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy! That is a tough one...but is far more common than you probably think. You are not alone in experiencing this...unfortunately the fact that he has a girlfriend and whether or not she is the right or wrong one for him is not your decision to make! I would take a long hard look to see if you can determine whether he may have feelings for you in that way - beyond just friends. I would also say if you guys are as close as friends as you say that no harm no foul if you approach him and tell him how you feel. You have nothing to lose...if your friendship is strong it can withstand anything...even if worse case scenario he is not into you in that way. Good luck!
2007-01-22 09:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by chick33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he was single i would say go for it but the problem is hes not and even tho you may think his girlfriend is all wrong for him he might not share the same opinion and if you mess things up with her then he might get mad and you lose his friendship and more. so just wait to see what happens with him and his gf and if it doesn't work out with them then make your move. good luck :)
2007-01-22 09:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like one of my friends situations. I know how you feel. But seeing as though he has a girl friend he probably doesn't feel the same way as you do. You're probably going to have to get over it. If he breaks up with her before you're over him(Which it will probably take a LONG time) then tell him how you feel. Youo'll never know if he feels the same way if you don't tell him. Just wait till he breaks up with her or she breaks up with him.
2007-01-22 09:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't think this girl is wrong, because if he did then he would've dump her by now. I think you love him and he only likes you as a friend. He even sees you as a little sister, because if he didn't then he would be with you not her. Find someone of your own.
2007-01-22 09:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to wait it out. Otherwise, you will be in trouble with the other girl and that is not worth it. See what his feelings are. He needs to make a move either way.
2007-01-22 09:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by CK1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't change a thing.
he is your friend and you are his friend.
to do anything right now would be a huge mistake.
he needs to find out on his own that she is all wrong for him, otherwise you are interfering. be there for your friend as you have been and in time if she is all wrong for him, he will come to see this on his own.
2007-01-22 09:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch how things between them play out..if it doesnt seem like its working out then wait for that relationship between them to end..
2007-01-22 09:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a thin line between love and hate, be careful which side of the line you walk.
2007-01-22 09:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by victorschool1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's ya best friend just tell him.dont be afraid of his reaction...he may fell the same as you.and since its ya bff it should feel less awkward telling him b/c u know each other so well.
2007-01-22 09:40:42 · answer #11 · answered by CPH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋